I think my boyfriend has gained a lot of weight from drinking and it's affecting his breathing - do I say anything

[Petals23]

So this summer he's had a couple of holidays... drinking wine and beer every day. He's definitely not an alcoholic but even when at home he'd drink most weekends. At the moment he's away on an activity week with friends and sent me some photos... I'm shocked at the size his belly has gone in a week, although he's gradually been putting weight on here. He told me his breathing isn't great at the moment. Although he had mild asthma years ago it hasn't been too much of a problem. He's also a terrible snorer!

For context, he's a small man, about 5'5. He's now weighing over 13 stone, whereas a couple of years ago he was less than 11.

I know it's drink rather than food that's putting on the weight- should I say that to him? Also could this be what is affecting his breathing?

It depends on both you and him...

First question is: do you care that he’s gaining weight? It sounds like you do (I would care!)

Second is: how would he react to you saying something? I know some men would be upset/angry whereas others are more thick skinned.

For context, when my DH gains some weight, (usually after Christmas/holidays) I do say something, because I know if I didn’t, he wouldn’t do anything about it. (And I would expect the same treatment from him.) I try not to make a big deal out of it either, I just say that his shirt looks a bit snug or that maybe it’s time to lay off the beers a bit.