Should I go?

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Several v close members of my family are going on holiday this week.

There's one seat left on the plane, there's space in the accommodation they have.

I didn't book with them as we've already had our holiday back in May and I was doubting taking both kids without my DH.

I have 2 kids, 4yo and 16mo. Clearly I can't take the 4yo, I could take the 18mo. But she'd be the youngest there by 5years, so could be hard with activities etc.

DH said last night to go if I wanted. I'm off work due to anxiety atm, a holiday sounds amazing, but will I spend the week worrying about my kids? I've only left them for 1 night before, this would be a week.

What would you do? Stay or go?

Should have proof read - youngest is 16m, so could go on my knee on the plane.

If your husband can cope in terms of work/childcare juggling with you being away then yes, I'd definitely go.

Given you’re off with anxiety - no I don’t think sounds great

Too last minute
Apart from your other hols
No info re your family

Apart from your other “child”

Why are you asking whether you 'should' go? The question, surely, is whether you want to go?

Would a break, away from 'everyday' stuff be enjoyable? Is it somewhere you have wanted to visit? Can your DH manage the children solo? Would there be things for you to do, which you don't get to do at home? Do you think you would relax and have a good week?
Those are questions to weigh up for yourself.

Not sure what you mean @Amibeingdaft81

The idea sounds great, I'd been looking at going but flights were expensive, and I thought it'd be too stressful with two kids as they'd be the youngest there.

I thought of taking myself away from all the stress here, and totally relaxing is very appealing. But would I relax?

I would say go - the older one would find it a novelty being with dad for a while, and you'd relax, have a change of scenery and be with close family.

I take it they know you have high anxiety and be supportive?

Does your work sickness policy allow you to go? Mine allows holidays out of the UK with prior permission while off on sick leave.

Work would be fine.

My family have mostly been very supportive but lack understanding.

I've decided it's a no. As much as I'd love to do nothing for a week, and escape the daily stress of getting the kids up, fed, etc. I can't be away from them for that long. I'd be in a permanent state of fear of being too far away if they were ill/hurt in any way.

And as much as my husband is an amazing father, our entire support network would be on holiday too.

It has made me think about why I wanted to go though, and think about what I really need to get through what I'm going through now.

Thanks for your comments ❤️