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Feeling low and sad

27 replies

Nocakeforme · 21/07/2019 08:39

Name changed for this as I feel very embarrassed and should be grateful for what I have in comparison to many others.

It is my birthday today and, as usual, I will be spending it totally on my own, no recognition of it from anyone, no way to mark it really and it seems a little pointless! Most of the time I am relatively happy to be alone, but this one day of the year does throw a spotlight on the feeling of loneliness.

Don't know what I am asking for really - maybe just some virtual company! As I said, it is a minor issue when compared to those struggling with poor health, bad relationships, housing or employment issues etc and do not wish to turn it into a pity party.

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Hotterthanahotthing · 21/07/2019 08:44

Happy Birthday.CakeWineFlowers
Mine are a bit the same but I prefer not the be reminded now and will be deffinatly be ignoring my 60th next year.
If I'm not working(and no one at work knows my b'day)then I prepare a nice meal,wine and a film.

Electrocute1980 · 21/07/2019 08:49

I'm sorry you're feeling low on your birthday. Happy birthday to you Thanks

Try to be kind to yourself and do nice things for yourself today - could you go for a nice walk, maybe stop off for coffee and cake? Then home for a relaxing bath and a favourite movie?

Kalim8 · 21/07/2019 08:56

Happy birthday 🎂, sorry you are feeling low

keepingbees · 21/07/2019 09:17

Happy Birthday Thanks
Sorry you're alone, can you do something nice for yourself as a treat? Buy yourself a present Smile

Sabich · 21/07/2019 09:21

Happy birthday! Star

What do you plan to do? Is there a nice coffee, walk etc locally?

AtrociousCircumstance · 21/07/2019 09:23

Happy birthday! Flowers Maybe do something treaty for yourself, something lovely and calming or indulgent. Sorry you feel blue. Be kind to yourself today.

MrsAJ27 · 21/07/2019 09:35

Happy Birthday Flowers

Pamper yourself, nice bath, face mask. Watch a good movie or box set. Get a take-away and some wine

Orangecake123 · 21/07/2019 09:38

Happy birthday OP.

Like the others have said, I hope you can do something nice for yourself.

Sabich · 21/07/2019 09:58

Update on what you do @Nocakeforme, even if it's just watching a movie Cake

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Nocakeforme · 21/07/2019 10:00

Thank you to all those who have sent well wishes, it is very much appreciated.

Am intending to spend the day working in the garden, commune with my chickens ( and @keepingbees, spend some time with my own bees!)...plus there is some internal decorating to get on with too.

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Xyzzzzz · 21/07/2019 10:00

Happy birthday Cake sorry you feel this way. As suggested try and pamper yourself

Ivalueloyaltyaboveallelse · 21/07/2019 10:04

Happy birthday CakeFlowers I hope you spend it doing something you enjoy. Also make yourself a nice lunch.

oneboy3girls · 21/07/2019 10:26

A Happy Birthday to You .Kind thoughts sent your way.

Tink1990 · 21/07/2019 11:53

Happy birthday Cake hope you have a lovely day doing things you enjoy Flowers

growlingbear · 21/07/2019 11:58

Happy Birthday @Nocakeforme !

Have some Cake despite your username Grin and some Flowers and Glitterball and Wine.

Please go and buy yourself some flowers and a good book . And if you are lonely please do something today to reach out and make contact with other people. Sign up for something that interests you which involves proper social contact. Or invite a couple of neighbours for coffee.

Orangepear · 21/07/2019 12:02

Happy birthday! Sounds like you've got lovely things to do. Hope you have a treat for lunch.

Magicroundabout321 · 21/07/2019 12:04

Wishing you a Happy Birthday!

Working in the garden sounds lovely. Are there any allotments near you? A good friend of mine has met a group of nice people at the allotment; they all share the same hobby.

May the future bring you brighter times xxx

Aomame83 · 21/07/2019 12:09

Happy Birthday! Your day bee keeping sounds very interesting!
Maybe get yourself a nice cake on your way home. A hot bath followed by a new book, a cup of tea and a slab of good cake sounds like bliss to me 🎂☕.

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Nocakeforme · 21/07/2019 14:22

Thank you all - the kindness of people I do not know and have not met means a very great deal

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Riddleofthesands · 21/07/2019 15:04

Happy Birthday Flowers, hope you are feeling less sad. This evening I would watch a couple of movies you love, something fun and uplifting or an old cossie drama? Be kind to yourself. Maybe make a plan for your next birthday? I went on a horse riding holiday in Spain by myself one year and yes there were lots of groups and couples but everyone was great and when they were getting on each other’s nerves I would find someone riding along next to me for a few hours. I think if you are all involved in an activity it’s a real ice breaker. Have a lovely day whatever you decide to do.

Smokeyrobinson · 21/07/2019 15:08

Wishing you a very happy birthday.

snowy0wl · 21/07/2019 15:12

Sending birthday hugs. Flowers Spending time with nature sounds like a wonderful plan. Some of my favourite afternoons are spent in the garden with my cats. xx

BlackBirdInMyGarden · 21/07/2019 15:48

Happy Birthday! Sounds like a lovely afternoon taking care of the garden. Can you perhaps treat yourself to something tonight? Grab some nice dessert and a meal you really enjoy with a glass of wine?

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BethanyGilbert · 21/07/2019 15:49

Happy birthday! Treat yourself to a nice dinner and a bubble bath.

snowy0wl · 21/07/2019 16:33

Happy thought - you have about 22 people thinking of you today. :)