Jealous of beautiful single friend

[Bedsidedrawer]

She is so elegant and beautiful and has many men after her.
I'm happily married so I'm not jealous of being single or of the men after her, but I just feel so middle aged and past it.
She posts photos of us and I always look hideous when she looks amazing.
I'm slim and used to be pretty but I take awful photos that make me look like a fat beast.
This is all so vain and shallow but I suppose I'm feeling weak today.

Just make the best of yourself and accept what you’ve got.

She might secretly wish she had your hair or teeth,

Trust me when I say being single isn't all it's cracked up to be. Just because men are after her doesn't mean they are worth her time.

I place too much value in how I look and I need to work on that.
I just feel rubbish about myself today

She might envy you for what you have, your husband, your family. The grass is always greener and all that.

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I do wish she'd stop posting awful photos of me though!

That's the issue, really, isn't it? It sounds quite a spiteful thing to do. I think she's as jealous of you as you are of her.

Do you not think she might be doing it on purpose so she looks better on comparison?!

I get the whole feeling middle aged and past it thing. But I know it's how I feel about myself and no reflection on anyone else.

Though I feel jealous, I have never been spiteful or expressed anything other than positive to her.
It's my internal thing, I get that.

I hate that feeling, very hard to shake it off no matter how unreasonable you know you are being.

I think she can be a bit off, sometimes I distrust her a bit.
But she's also lovely and sweet etc
A complicated friendship!

I'm just being straight up human and flawed!

I remember being single (not beautiful like your friend but probably ok) and envying with all my might my coupled up / married/babied friends as they had the one thing I didn't have.

She may be just as envious as you if not more.

Grass is always greener... until you get there.

You don’t have to have your photo taken.

She may post these photos thinking it's a lovely one of the both of you. I wouldn't automatically assume she's being spiteful! She probably has no idea that you're so down on yourself.

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I have issues, I'll admit!

Ugh my sister does this. She puts all the
Disgusting photos of me and all the perfect photos of her. I am coming close to asking her to take them down.

Agree she may not see the pic of as awful; I often show my friends pics of us together thinking they look amazing/beautiful but they hate them.
I think we are more self critical of ourselves than anyone else is; maybe you're overthinking her intentions?

Ask her to stop posting photos of you. I can't believe she doesn't realise that what she's doing could be demoralising - that is if she's really that amazing by comparison.

In any case, having 'lots of men after her' isn't necessarily a picnic at all. What are they all after her for? Very likely just a notch on the bedpost, as they used to say.
I well remember being so glad to be married and out of the whole 'meat market' business.

'What are they all after her for? Very likely just a notch on the bedpost, as they used to say.'

Yes because the only thing a single woman is useful for is a good fuck.

Honestly, it's fine to be married, it's fine to be celibate, it's fine to be single and shagging around. Just don't be a boring knob and try to position one as being morally superior.