Cheer me up first night away cancelled :(

[Breastfeedingworries]

Mums!

Tonight was planned while my dd was still in the womb! Hen do party and my baby whose never had so much as a cold has diarrhoea and sickness.

My mum was babysitting, I’m single parent and my dd is nearly 8 months.

Whose had nights ruined like this and how did you cheer yourself up? I do feel really sorry for my dd but I am gutted. Obviously t family and friends I’ve let down last min I’m saying it can’t be helped but between me the and Anonymous mumsnet I really needed this night. I am so gutted :(

That's rubbish, I bet you've been really looking forward to it.

DH and I had to cancel a weekend away for my 40th birthday recently as he was ill. He's still I'll so I've got no idea if we can rebook it.

To cheer myself up I have mainly been eating what the hell I want. I think this is probably a bad idea in the long term!

ill not I'll!

Why can’t your mum still have your child? Surely she dealt with similar when you were a child!?

Why can’t your mum still have your child? Surely she dealt with similar when you were a child!?

Because she cares more about the health and wellbeing of her child than a night out?
I wouldn't be able to enjoy a night away knowing my baby was ill and would be wanting me.

Well my mum was okay with her being bit off, she was sick earlier and leaked her nappy. But I fully packed got all ready and was just leaving when she projectile vomited all over herself and her rocking chair and my mum said she needed me, and that she’s too poorly.

In fairness she cries and puts her arms up if I try and move away, she’s been bit clingy all day but it’s next level now. So I understand why my mum won’t.

😭😭

Thanks guys I’m so disappointed. I don’t know when my next chance will be and my best friend is so disappointed too, she had two kids and hasn’t been out for 2 years. We were both so excited.

I’ve let so many people down and the bride too! Lost all the money paid. It’s awful and I don’t want to sound selfish as dd is poorly but I am down :(

Oh honey, you haven't let anyone down! You're just doing what's right for your poorly dd! It's the kind of stuff that happens when you're a mum.
You'll get a night out, this won't go on forever.
Meanwhile and and snuggle down with dd, she'll be better soon and will be so glad to have you there.

Thanks I feel so guilty for moaning! I’ve had to ring 111 as was suddenly so worried.

Luckily she’s drinking now and I’m going to go in if she’s sick again. She’s been sick twice. My mums helped and cleaned up all her bedding. We’re watching baby tv and luckily I’ve got my phone to get me through it.

She’s never been sick, and I just want her to be better. So glad I hadn’t gone out sooner, I wouldn’t of enjoyed it at all. Thanks for responses xx

Poor you and poor baby.

The money is spent anyway so that's gone. Make a plan for another night out or something for you. Planning it is half the fun anyway. I 'book' entire fancy holidays in my head.

Really feel for you op, what rotten timing! But you will have many nights out and away in the future, it does get easier.

Treat yourself in whatever way you can.

Why can’t your mum still have your child? Surely she dealt with similar when you were a child!?

Ah, the practical but emotionless response.

It is rotten luck, but you're a wonderful mum to be there for her.

Can you rent something on Prime or similar, and get a posh takeaway delivered? You do deserve a nice night regardless!

I recommend Captain Marvel for Jude Law in leather armour alone...

For me, first couple of nights away in two years. Not had even so much as a dinner date before that. Had childcare arranged for two of ours with my dm, mil (who'd not had a chance to spend any time with youngest before), decides she'd rather spend the time visiting estranged long-distance relations in another country instead. So, I had to cancel everything. Never bothered asking her again, and didn't rearrange another night off for a further year.

As if someone would leave such an ill baby with grandma. Not fair on grandma or poorly baby.

We spent the first night of our honeymoon in A and E in Cornwall with our baby who had temp of 39.5,.. next couple of days were crap but rest of the holiday was great, they bounce back quickly!

I really hope you can arrange a night out soon OP, sounds like you need a break xxx

Thanks all, I know I shouldn’t of posted but i was so excited it’s been planned from before she was born. I was counting it down. I know they’ll be other nights and now mostly I feel guilty because I’ve got a poorly baby. She’s Laying on my chest cuddling her rabbit and watching baby tv. It’s distracting her I think from feeling crap.

Tv isn’t great but it’s stopped her crying :(

Seriously, in these circumstances tv is fine, whatever it takes!

My dds Dad has left a stag do in Blackpool to be home and close to her. I am so humbled, we aren’t together but are both friends on groom and hen and I’m actually to touched that he’s said he can’t settle and won’t enjoy himself knowing she’s poorly.

Im over whelmed ❤️

Sorry spelling and everything is jumbled and missing words I’m quite tearful

Aw Breastfeeding, that is lovely that your DD's dad has come home to be near her. I'm so sorry your night out was scuppered. Is your DM still with you? Have you got something to eat? If not, hope finances will run to a nice takeaway. And hope your DD is absolutely fine by the morning.

It's entirely understandable to feel sorry for yourself and angry at the world. I went through a stage where every nice thing that was planned (and not re-arrangable) had to be cancelled as either a child or I was ill. I just didn't get a break. I started to get paranoid and convinced I'd get ill if there was something planned.

It's crap but there will be another opportunity, even if you have to make it happen.

Two of my close friends came over with a take away, they just popped over to feed me my mum and Dad.

Me and Dds dad have our ups and downs like any single parents do but I am so touched. I cried to his mum felt so bad I’d spoilt his time away and didn’t want to worry as it’s only a bug. She said I did the right thing telling him and he’d have been so hurt if I hadn’t. She told me he loves her more than anyone else. I know he does, I am so humbled by him coming home. He doesn’t live with us, he’s come home just to be close incase she needs him.

So many men or even husbands wouldn’t do what he’s done. My dd is so lucky to have him.