If you married after 10+ years together, kids etc..

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How did you feel about the wedding?

We’ve been together for just over 10 years, 2 kids together, no more kids wanted.

We got engaged last year and get married next year. But we’re way past the honeymoon period and we’ve had ups and downs throughout the whole relationship.

We seem to have lost the spark and I worry if it’s normal due to the length of our relationship, kids etc... or not?

Kind of similar, together for 8 years with 2 kids. Decided to get engaged, got quickly married after the decision. Love it!!!
We hadn't lost a spark but life was definitely more challenging after kids were born. Out of the newborn fog, having fun with the kids now but sometimes hark back to our easy early couple days, especially when kids are being difficult.
The wedding initially was a paperwork thing, then it started to feel quite romantic and now I look back on it with a lot of happiness and feel like its cemented us even more. The decision to have kids was our big commitment - but its like we are now 'official'.
But I probably didn't feel like we had lost the spark, and the downs were life issues rather than downs in the relationship so it has never felt like the wedding was something we 'needed' to do to fix things.
I think you might need to explore your reasons for why you think you might want a marriage. Also think about it in terms of a forever and ever marriage, not a single wedding day. Most people were shocked we did a registry office quickie...