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Dd 13 and birthday presents for friends

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TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince · 19/07/2019 12:49

How do other people deal with this?

She has 5 close friends and herself born within 2 weeks of each other.

How do other people finance birthday presents like this? We bought her a really good computer for her birthday (not cheap) and her 2 closest friends a present.

She now wants 3 more presents for her friends. We’ve refused to pay anymore. Her friends have all bought her gifts.

How would you deal with this?

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RedSkyLastNight · 19/07/2019 12:52

Does she get an allowance? If so, I'd expect it to come out of this.
If she doesn't then I think you need to give her money for presents (surely you bought presents for friends when she was younger? Why is this suddenly an issue?)

Buying her a computer is entirely irrelevant.

BusyEvenForBee · 19/07/2019 12:54

If all close the friends got my ds a birthday gift, I would make sure that they would be given a gift in return. The same would work in adulthood and I would treat it as a learning curve as well. Depending on the value of the gift my ds would be intending to spend, I would ask him to use his pocket money to contribute.

PhantomErik · 19/07/2019 12:56

I would give her £10 per friend. It's a shame they're close together but that's life.

If you genuinely can't afford it & she has pocket money etc I would suggest she funds it herself.

FelicityButtercup · 19/07/2019 12:56

I would look out for generic gifts throughout the year and snap up bargains. Add in chocolates and stuff from Claire's Accessories such a lip balms or whatever and it can be done cheaply

hidinginthenightgarden · 19/07/2019 13:06

I would let her buy the gifts. Claire have loads of offers on. It would cost you much to buy them a token gift each.

TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince · 19/07/2019 13:17

The computer cost a lot. Meaning we are skint. So it was relevant

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TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince · 19/07/2019 13:18

I’ve offered a bit towards them and she is putting the rest out of her pocket money.

Thanks guys.

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Purpletigers · 19/07/2019 13:46

As they’re all born so close together perhaps she could suggest they go out for a meal and then the cinema in future ? That way neither of them has to spend money on presents and they get to celebrate together .

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