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Losing it

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Badwifey · 19/07/2019 11:26

I'm a sahp to one dd. She's been on holidays from school since June 22nd. I'm am officially losing my shit as of today.

Money is really tight so I don't have funds to be taking her places every day. I think I've been to the playground everyday since she finished up. We live in a small apartment, she has plenty of toys but she is ON TOP of me all day every day. Everything she does she wants me to be involved in. She brings everything from her room to the living area to play and never tidies anything away.
I feel like I have spent the last month just constantly picking shit up off the floor. She loves crafts but gets bored midway through a project and makes me finish it... then the clean up... Jesus I'm going crazy.
I haven't had any alone time except for an hour or so before I go to bed. I find myself staying up later and later each evening just so I can have some time alone watching shit tv.
My DH comes home from work and takes her out for a few mins but they're usually only gone 15 mins before they are back.
I've lost my shit today because the last 3 days she's been up to mischief, and this morning splashed black paint all over the wall beside the kitchen table.
My DH goes to work 5 days a week and nearly every weekend I have another full day alone.
She's only 5 so she's too small to be allowed out to play alone.
Don't know why I'm posting really I just need to vent. I've been crying this morning which has really upset her. I overreacted about the paint but I'm so fed up looking after everyone and doing everything and having absolutely no time or money to do anything for myself.

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Flyingarcher · 19/07/2019 16:07

Poor you. It is relentless. I suggest you plan out the day so use a visual timetable for her. I found it hard at that age as my eldest woke so bloody early that by 9.30 I felt I had done full day. The expense can get a lot too.

So, suggest you create a school like timetable for her ( and you).

In a day do one going out (walk slowly) to somewhere, library, we used to go to a hen farm, national trust garden, park, playground, museum. Some places have activity things for kids over the school holiday - look them up as they are often free.

I hate craft with a vengence. No paint. Do one making activity, with lego, playdoh, magnetics.

Do a school activity so you can get her to make letters out of playdoh to spell words. She will be on cvc or ccvc words. Get her a whiteboard with washable pens, she can write words. Keep a diary. Short sentences only. Maths - get her to count apples, take away, add - pasta good for this. Get her to teach something to her toys like a teacher - that should buy you ten mins.

Reading, twenty mins a day snuggled with reading to her.

Watching tv - honestly, just do it for your own sanity.

Imaginative stuff
Indoor tents (two chairs and a sheet, duvet cover over the top)
Going to theseaside ( pretend jumping over the waves, etc)
Schools

Helping activities
Teach her to make scrambled eggs. They can sit on the side and stir stuff.
Cakes

For tidy up time, there is a song that our reception teacher plays and they tidy up to that.

It is honestly relentless. I totally get the money thing. Is it worth, rather than paying to go out to places, that you put her one day or half day a week into a sports club or holiday club for your sanity.

It does get better, honest.

Badwifey · 19/07/2019 16:41

Thanks Flyingarcher.

The thing is... I have done all of these things with her and I am bored. I'm bored going to the playground, bored bringing her to the park. I feel like I'm in groundhog day at the moment. Like my life is stuck on repeat.
It's not even my dd to be honest it's me. I know it's my issue. I'm just fed up with life at the minute. It's monotonous and relentless and I feel like I have no joy.
I told my Dh I'd love to go away for a week on my own (it wouldn't happen because I can't afford it) but anyway his reply was he'd just go home to his parents for a week. I'm so resentful that he wouldn't even just look after dd alone for a week without running home to mammy. He has no idea how the days drag when all you do is cook, clean and entertain a 5 year old all day.

Jesus I'm just rambling now. I've had such a shitty day I just want to bury my head in the sand.

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