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Summer holiday play date invites....

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Wingingallofthis · 18/07/2019 21:07

Hi all, looking for a view on this as I mentioned it to my friend this evening and she said my DSD will be bullied/laughed at.

DSD is ending reception tomorrow and will be spending 5 weeks of the summer with DP & I as we’ve recently got 80% custody- that’s a whole different thread. I’ve a lot of the time off via annual leave and DP is using his last few available days too. There’s a few days where my Nan is coming to stay to help out - DP family live further away and have other commitments this summer

Anyway DSD has said she would like to play with AB&C during our time off which I’m fully for except I know the parents to say hi but not to have their numbers to arrange so I’ve created on word doc a little summer play date invite saying:

During the 6 week holidays, if you would like to play ie go to the park, trampoline park, bowling or come round please contact my Daddy (his name) on 123. Hope to see you and have fun. (DSD name)

My friend saw them this evening in my bag and said I can’t give them out to her 5 friends parents tomorrow and should just put our number on a bit of paper. Im now in two minds what to do so welcome any views! SmileBlush

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Borris · 18/07/2019 21:08

Sounds fine to me Confused

feathermucker · 18/07/2019 21:11

Sounds fine to me.

CCquavers · 18/07/2019 21:13

Do it. Sounds lovely. Don’t be disappointed if you get no takers though. I’m trying to fit 1 friend in and it’s not going to happen.

MrsPear · 18/07/2019 21:16

I don’t know what’s your friends problem Confused sounds a great idea to me

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Wingingallofthis · 18/07/2019 21:19

I’m glad no one else sees it as a problem, as soon as she said about bullying/being laughed at I got a tad worried! I’ll send them in with her tomorrow as planned

I’ve let her know that they might be really busy with their families so she might not get to play with them but if they do text/call, I’ll rearrange our days to fit.

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Iggly · 18/07/2019 21:21

It does seem a bit keen but I understand why.

Is your dp friends with any of the parents on Facebook? Maybe he could use Facebook messenger them.

The parents may find it awkward dealing with him if they’ve been used to dealing with the mum. Be prepared for that.

Iggly · 18/07/2019 21:23

And actually an alternative might be to actually fix a date and just invite them over as if it were a party.

So just say you’re having a summer party.... then you get a firm commitment. Get a long list from DSD of about 10 friends or so. Then hopefully 5 will turn up!

Bokky · 18/07/2019 21:32

DD started a new school and one of her friends, whose mum didn't have my number, had her mum send me a note via the DDs inviting her for tea. I thought it was lovely and text her that evening. We've now become friends so it was a good result all round!

Leeds2 · 18/07/2019 21:44

Who picks up DSD from school? If it is you or DH, could you try and arrange a play date at your house for one of the friends in the first week of the holidays?

Having a "party" at home for a few of them is a great idea. My DD went to a small co-ed school, and I did this for the girls in her class on the weekend before they went back in September. Think I did it by email - we had class lists with all the contact details.
Otherwise, I think your note is a great idea, and I would respond if my DD received this.

Ellieboolou27 · 18/07/2019 22:27

@Wingingallofthis being laughed at? Maybe if she was 12-13 but reception age - No way, I would love a little note like that, it's nice to socialise with classmates during the holidays.

Parsnippy · 18/07/2019 22:28

I think it is fine. At 5 they aren't going to think that is embarrassing. They are 5. They'll think it is exciting. Even if I wasn't able to meet up over the summer I'd stick it on the fridge and have your number so I could invite your DSD over another time. But someone might be able to arrange it for over the summer making it well worth it.

littlepooch · 18/07/2019 22:30

I would love this. My kids are not school age yet but even now at nursery I would love it if someone did this. My kids would love it too.

Gigia · 18/07/2019 22:31

Sounds fine to me too

MadameButterface · 18/07/2019 22:41

It’s cute! It’s a nice thing to do. I hope she gets to play with her pals.

Is your ‘friend’ one of those people who prides themselves on ‘keeping it real’ etc or ‘only being honest’ a lot, when in reality they like to make shitty comments about nice exciting things others have planned to burst their bubble perchance? Because to me it sounds like someone is perhaps a bit jealous that you have a summer with lots of annual leave planned to do nice things with a cute little 5yo, or wants to sow some self doubt in you about your new primary carer role, or both. I could be overthinking of course and she could just be gobby and tactless. But it would jingle my jangles that someone would be mean about you doing a nice cute little thing.

Anyway! That ended up in kind of a dark place (sorry am premenstrual 😬). I hope you enjoy your summer and have lots of fun, with or without playdates.

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Wingingallofthis · 19/07/2019 15:18

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head regarding my friend.

Invites were handed out today bun DSD in the playground and she was so happy to give them to her friends. Had one strange look of a parent but oh well, DSD is happy so I’m happy!

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Paramicha · 19/07/2019 15:32

That's lovely and ignore your friend.
I think it gives a clear message, unlike several of my brood yrs ago.
They faked invites to play on a certain day, not a party though. They invited all their friends and siblings covering all their school years.
Over a hundred turned up to play on the non existent bouncy castles we hadn't hired, as we had no idea. I was glad they attended a small school.
I cried, the parents were great and stopped to help, we all mucked in and used the village green.

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