WWYD - DS 7 , laughed at in school toilet

[Mummy195]

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Today DS was at a school toilet making a poo, and where the lock is supposed to be there is a round hole.
Another child saw him, laughed and called about 7 or so of his friends who all came to look. He is angry at the other child for doing so, says he told a supply teacher, but not too sure if anything was done.

I know it's just kids being kids really, though I was mortified for him because he was crying, upset, I quickly saw the it's not a big deal side to it.

I thought of calling the other boys mum, tell her what happened and ask her boy's side of it, if it's straight forward, then maybe ask her to tell her boy to apologise?

Should the school really have holes on toilet doors?
Tomorrow is last day of school and I feel a bit like I would be making a mountain out of a molehill if I even bring this up. I presume lots of the maintenance will be done over the holidays anyway.

In context, the other reason I feel bad is because DS is unlucky. About 3/4 years ago, some other kid vomited on him at the last day of school. They were on a merry go round and the boy (who is a friend of other DS) had just had a muffin, so maybe his mum should have known better that to immediately put him on something so fast, also he was 8, which I thought was old enough to say I feel a bit sick. I was not there, my sister was, the mum never apologised, but we concluded she had been too busy and concerned with her DS being sick to really pay attention. School was closed, so nothing to be done, really. I let that go, but did feel guilty.

WWYD?

Merry go rounds are fast?! 😂

I'm not sure I'd expect a mother to apologise for her son vomming on yours.

As for the loo incident, I'd be inclined to let it go.

Merry go round can make a child who just ate woozy, as demonstrated by the child who vomited all over my DS face?

I did let it go, because there was nothing she could do about it, though personally I would acknowledge another child if my DC did that all over their faces.

But that is not the question.

Also, just in case anyone is foolish enough to entertain the boards with stories of their DC’s toileting habits please remember that there is a pedophile currently “trolling” for stories. I’d strongly advise against sharing such stories.

I would speak to the school. A child should have the right to poo in private at school. Either they should have doors without holes or they should restrict who can be in the toilets at any one time.

Children have a right to privacy and dignity.

If another mum told me my son had done that to their child, I would have no problem talking to my son about it but as it is the start of the holidays, maybe best to leave it.

Why were seven kids in the loo at the same time?

The roundabout story is irrelevant. But you comment that you and your family "concluded" indicates you're maybe overthinking things.

Apparently the child went out of the loo and called the others to come look.

I bring up the merry go round, because I felt I somehow let him down, for not doing anything about it.
Not sure we were overthinking it. I was not there, so I asked my sister details like, did the other mum see, she said yes, did she say anything, no. Did she offer some of the water and tissues she was using on her own ds, no . etc. It was probably a 15 minute conversation.

We've had a few reports about this thread - but we don't believe the OP to be a troll. If anyone has any further concerns, just drop us a line.

I assume that is MissingtheMissletoe with her strange story about a troll looking for kids toilet stories. shrugs, did not even know that was a thing.

Not sure how that would apply here, since I am not asking for other people's children stories , but whether they would bring it up with the school or parent, and how they would make the DC feel better after this incident.

Totally confused............

I would mention the toilet incident as privacy going to the toilet is important.

Also any kind of ridiculing and deliberately causing humiliation to another child should be nipped in the bud.

I wouldn't mention it to the other parent but I would talk to the school about it. What happened was unacceptable.

I would mention it to the school, as there shouldn't be a hole in the toilet door and the summer holidays tends to be when maintenance is done so would be the best time to sort the hole out.

What year is DS in? Reception/year 1 children being silly about having a poo is totally different to say year 5/6 children deliberately humiliating DS. Small children I wouldn't expect anything more done than a chat about why it wasn't a nice thing to do, older children I would expect the child to miss break and apologise properly.

I would say something to the school about having holes in the toilet and I would also say something to the other Mum if you know her. This would have traumatised me as a child and you don’t want you son not going to the toilet when needed because he is embarrassed.
I would also speak to your son to say its a completely normal thing to do and those boys would not have liked that if it was them!