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Birthday present etiquette

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MarthaRay · 18/07/2019 03:27

I have a query regarding birthday present etiquette and so forth which I'd like to put forward.
My daughter turned 18 at the beginning of the year and decided not to have a birthday party, instead having a small get together with friends at the beach. Because of the late notice, not many friends were able to make it, and only one friend brought a present. My daughter was very understanding, and didn't expect presents from anyone because of the late notice, however she was disappointed that she didn't receive a card from one of her best friends who she has been close with since they were 4 years old. That same friends 18th birthday is coming up soon, and she has asked my daughter to buy her a relatively expensive ring as a present. I'm not questioning whether we should buy this girl a gift - of course we will - but is it fair for her to ask specifically for an expensive gift when she didn't buy a gift or even a card for my daughter? How should I address this? What do I do? Thank you for taking the time to read and respond.

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Horsemenoftheaclopalypse · 18/07/2019 03:59

I would ignore the request and get her whatever gift you feel like giving.

funmummy48 · 18/07/2019 04:05

I wouldn't buy anything at all. What an odd situation. My daughter & friends all but each other token gifts.

Myfoolishboatisleaning · 18/07/2019 04:59

Don’t buy what she asked for because that is incredibly rude and grabby. I would buy a gift though, just a token.

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Sparklfairy · 18/07/2019 05:31

Best friend is a CF! Out of principle don't buy the gift she asked for, it's the height of rudeness.

ShanghaiDiva · 18/07/2019 05:41

I think it's incredibly rude to ask for any specific gift (whether she bought a gift for your daughter is irrelevant) and I would ignore this request and buy what you and your daughter want to buy.
A book on manners might be something that would be useful...

MrsGrannyWeatherwax · 18/07/2019 05:50

I’d be of the persuasion that if your daughter feels like getting her a gift then fine but I’d probably only get a fancy card rather than gift.

I can not believe that only one friend brought her a present or card! How terrible are they - your daughter needs nicer friends

Sarahjconnor · 18/07/2019 08:44

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