Parents Overstepping the mark

[excited2bMUM]

My parents are over stepping the mark by telling me how to feel, act, eat and exercise. I am trying my best and can barely eat at the moment as nothing is staying down, am I over reacting?

Do they have a point? If you are barely eating I mean.

Are you pregnant? Going by your username. Are you looking after yourself properly? Could they be worried?

Yes Im pregnant and no, they werent happy when i said i was pregnant and arent happy unless things are about them. I cant help not eating as i am eating but its not staying down i attend the docs once a week to monitor this and i am on meal suppliments and vitamins etc to ensure im getting everything my body and baby needs.

OP, may I ask, how old are you? (Obviously you don't have to answer, but I do think it could be pertinent).

I'd scale back how much you actually tell them - it's vital to be honest with anyone in healthcare, but maybe you're inadvertently handing ammo to your parents.

It sounds like they have always displayed this behaviour and you need to create some boundaries.

Have a look at the Out of The FOG website. I'm not suggesting thet either of your parents have a personality disorder however it's a great site with techniques to use against people who just can't deal with the boundaries of others, are self centred, self obsessed and generally hard to deal with.

I've also put a link to the Gray Rock technique for detachment.

outofthefog.website/who-we-are

outofthefog.website/what-to-do-2/grey-rock-safe-detachment

How old are you? Are you living at home or is there another reason they know so much?
Can you try and be more selective about what you tell them?

Honestly?

It’s very very unusual to be having weekly updates with a doctor to monitor your eating and to be prescribed (? Am assuming) meal supplements. Even women with severe hyperemesis don’t have this. Your baby gets all your nutrients even if you’re eating barely anything - seriously I lost two stone during my twin pregnancy.

That combined with the ‘exercise’ makes me think that maybe they’re concerned as you have an eating disorder and they are concerned for you and the baby? And as you live with them (? Again assuming) they can see what you are and are not eating?

I think we need more information before deciding if they're overbearing or not

Before pregnancy, did you have an eating disorder or other health concern? How far along is your pregnancy?

Eliza - I had severe hyperemesis from 6 weeks to birth and had weekly appointments for most of my pregnancy to monitor my weight loss and check baby growth. I've never had an eating disorder.

Another asking how old you are and whether you live with your parents?

The answer to those questions will make it much easier to give advice.

Apols definitely not my (totally anecdotal) experience! Not even mine but others.

The way to support someone online is not to interrogate them about a serious mental health problem that they haven't disclosed.

If the OP does have an ED she's probably been triggered to fuck by now and may not return.

Not really sure how posters are supposed to simultaneously know the whole background but also not ask about the background. Going purely on the OP - YABU OP, they are clearly concerned about you.

Did you suffer from an eating disorder before you got pregnant, OP?