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Sons friend being sick

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thekingfisher · 17/07/2019 03:06

First time for me -16yo ds has some friends staying they went to a party and 1 friend has come back steaming drunk. He's been sick and now seems to want to just go to sleep - what do I do where do I put him. It's first time I've met him (today) and I can't send him home as he lives too far away (2hours).
Should I put him to bed in the bathroom. Desperately don't want to put him to bed in one of bedrooms - as he might be sick again ??? I've got to work amongst other things tomorrow

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thekingfisher · 17/07/2019 03:11

Anyone ??

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Powerplant · 17/07/2019 03:14

Can you put him on the sofa laying on his side with a bucket to hand.

FairyDust92 · 17/07/2019 03:15

That's an awkward one. Put him in the bedroom with a bucket with some water in it just incase he's sick again. I'd check on him often though because of the risk of choking. Wouldn't be happy with the situation though tbh if it were me.

MynameisJune · 17/07/2019 03:16

Sofa on his side, bucket nearby and towels on the floor in case he misses. Tomorrow when he is hung over give them both a huge lecture on drinking responsibly.

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thekingfisher · 17/07/2019 03:17

Great minds - I've just done that surrounded by towels and bucket Confused apparently he's drunk 4 or 5 jaeger bombs??? Think this is vodka redbull from my day? Ds won't touch spirits one of the others is pretty pissed but with it and now in bed asleep and the other two are 'chatty' needless to say I am not and have sent them to bed and to shut up.

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WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 17/07/2019 03:18

Hi, sorry you've found yourself in this situation. I would put him to sleep in the recovery position on the floor with lots of towels under him (head and bottom unfortunately), preferably in a room someone else can sleep in who would stir if they heard him vomit again.

Aspiration is a real danger when they're in that mess. If he's unrousable completely I would consider an ambulance (and I am an EMT so I don't say that lightly)

It's a horrid situation that he's put you in, but kids that age test us all the time Sad

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thekingfisher · 17/07/2019 03:19

Yes am going to check on him through the night. He's talking but clearly desperate to sleep - his head/arm kept slipping off table. He was VERY sick so hope that most of it is out of his system. Although how he can sleep with redbull In I've no idea and why parent of party girl (who is 17) thought it wise to serve it god only knows

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thekingfisher · 17/07/2019 03:21

Thanks for advice - I'll check on him shortly - should I try to rouse him each time I check? Or just check he's breathing. He was able to walk to sofa and talk to me so not unconscious

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WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 17/07/2019 03:21

He will probably wake from his deep slumber in a few hours jittery as hell and unable to sleep. Possibly quite anxious too. The alcohol takes over and knocks you out but the effects of the caffeine and taurine last and when you start to sober up make you feel like shit!

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 17/07/2019 03:24

When you check on him make sure he's still on his side, his airway isn't compromised (head tilted back slightly) and just give his sternum a bit of a hard rub. He doesn't need to actually wake fully and talk, just respond to stimuli which will tell you he's not unconscious.

Poor you - lumped with someone else's pissed kid.

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thekingfisher · 17/07/2019 03:25

Xpost he is clearly pissed so he staggered to sofa and told me he was fine now and wasn't going to be sick again 🙄
The irony is I hosted a massive party a few weeks ago for ds end of exams and no one was sick when I was convinced there might be loads having pre-drunk so I stayed up
All. Ugh the to check on people - without needs as it turned out.
Obv I was prepared for that night (at a weekend) not a random Tuesday

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Mumof1andacat · 17/07/2019 03:25

Phone the parents and get them to pick him up

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thekingfisher · 17/07/2019 03:25

Where the Fuck that's really helpful thanks. It feels very lonely. Dh is away with work so just me here

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thekingfisher · 17/07/2019 03:26

Mum - they are not local and wouldn't really achieve much as would take 2hours to get here

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WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 17/07/2019 03:31

No worries, I wouldn't want to be on my own dealing with it either. I'm in Aus so I'll be up all of your night if you need to message me.

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thekingfisher · 17/07/2019 03:35

Thanks

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thekingfisher · 17/07/2019 03:37

Right just checked on him he hasn't moved and is fast asleep in his side in the sofa. I checked he was breathing Confused

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WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 17/07/2019 03:42

I'd make your child and the other not too pissed one sit up and monitor him so you can get some sleep but then I'm a bitch haha

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thekingfisher · 17/07/2019 03:47

I like your style !
my ds was clearly cross with him and had got him water and some toast and resolve and bucket when they got in at 1.45- with all the banging about I woke up and found the unfolding carnage as the boy refused to go to bed (wisely it would seem) ....
I'll be getting them all up early by vacuuming

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allhalekale · 17/07/2019 04:05

Hi you popped up on my thread so I thought I’d come over and offer some middle of the night support.

Yes get the vacuum out for sure!! Those parents are mad serving Jäger bombs to teens?!?

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thekingfisher · 17/07/2019 04:07

Thanks alhale
It's quiet here at the moment - how's your arse?
Actually dogs snoring and it's starting to get light so life starts to feel a little less isolated !
Going to check on pukey Pete (not his real name) in a mo.

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allhalekale · 17/07/2019 04:13

Grin, pukey Pete.
I think I’ve gone about half an hour nearly without a trip to the loo. Things are improving Grin

snitzelvoncrumb · 17/07/2019 04:13

Call his parents and tell them they can collect him from the front door step.

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thekingfisher · 17/07/2019 04:17

Snitzel - they live a good couple of hours away - if he was any worse I would do - but then I'd also be probably phoning for some help. He seems asleep and settled (until the hangover kicks in). He's in our sitting room on the sofa with floor to ceiling windows and no curtains so shortly it's not going to be the most pleasant environment for him as the sun streams in

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Graphista · 17/07/2019 04:56

Sorry but I think you're being massively unreasonable and irresponsible by not phoning his parents.

It's irrelevant they're 2 hours away, you don't know his medical history and you don't know how they're going to feel about this.

If I were his parent I would not be impressed either with his actions OR your lack of communication.

This is a potentially dangerous scenario (aspiration etc) and it's not your place to decide if he's fine on your sofa with a bucket!

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