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Would you get involved in this?

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Aqueo517 · 16/07/2019 19:25

DH and I are friends with a couple. We’ve been good friends for 20 years. He’s been caught ‘sexting’ before now, they worked things out and moved on from it.

He’s been posting comments on someone’s Instagram page (a model the other side of the world). Stuff like ‘looking hot today’, ‘beautiful smile’, ‘love those kinky boots’, ‘wish you were here in England’.

I don’t think he realises you can scroll back and read every comment. He comments a lot. His wife’s dad is very seriously ill in a hospice and he’s still commenting.

I’m worried she’ll see the posts and be really hurt by them. DH says we should stay out of it. I think we should tell him they’re easily seen and he needs to delete/unfollow the model. Wwyd?

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Pogmella · 16/07/2019 19:33

Send him a screenshot with Hmm emoji

Soola · 16/07/2019 19:45

I think we should tell him they’re easily seen and he needs to delete/unfollow the model.

I don’t think it’s your business to tell another adult what to do just because it doesn’t meet with your moral standards.

Yes, it’s cringeworthy and depending on how his wife feels about it, could be seen as being disrespectful.

I wouldn’t do it and wouldn’t like my husband doing more so because it makes them/you look like a twit for gushing over someone who is clearly out of their league.

However, he’s doing it where it can be seen and she might Ginsburg it completely harmless and preferable to him sending messages privately to someone that is in his sphere and known to him.

Some people like to hush over models and celebrities but would actually wet themselves in fear if their comments were taken seriously by the recipient.

Soola · 16/07/2019 19:46

Ginsburg Means she might know about it and find it harmless

Soola · 16/07/2019 19:46

Hush means hush

Yellowweatherwarning · 16/07/2019 19:46

Just send a message asking him if he is 15.....

Soola · 16/07/2019 19:46


Aqueo517 · 16/07/2019 19:48

I just want to save her some heartache. I think she’ll be upset by it especially considering the timing. She might never even find out. I’m really torn.

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flumpybear · 16/07/2019 19:49

Tell him he's embarrassing himself, he's with in it with his long term partner or he pisses off and let's her get on with her life with a decent partner

MyOpinionIsValid · 16/07/2019 19:51

Absolutely none of your business. All you'll do is destroy the friendship, possibly the marriage and make your female friends so embarrassed she wont want to be around your pitying looks.

OKBobble · 16/07/2019 19:53

How old is he? How old is the model?

Post something in reply to his comment such as " yeah right as if this 20 year old beauty would be interested in a middle aged bloke like you Terry!" Then the next time - "wow you're pretty persistent! Has she not messaged you back yet Grin " He will soon be embarrassed out of it.

Aqueo517 · 16/07/2019 20:09

I’ve just asked my mum, she gives good advice. She said stay out of it too, he’s a grown man, he’s knows the consequences. So that’s what I’ll do. Thanks everyone.

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Soola · 16/07/2019 20:12

I think most people have a celebrity that they like to look at, perhaps even fantasise but it doesn’t mean they don’t live their partners.

I look at good looking men on Instagram. Ok I don’t leave gushing comments .....

Aqueo517 · 16/07/2019 20:25

It’s hurtful though isn’t it? I’d be really upset if I found DH had been sending messages to a model,20 years younger, commenting on how fit,sexy,hot she is while I’m watching my Dad die in a hospice. Stupid bastard. Yes I’m sure most people have fantasies and celebrities they follow and fancy but the messages are just crossing the line imo.

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Soola · 16/07/2019 20:48

The laugh is on him though really as no way is some Instagram model ever going to take him up on it.

Singlenotsingle · 16/07/2019 20:51

I'd do what a pp said. Send him a screenshot with a wtf emoji. He may not realise everyone can see it.

Stompythedinosaur · 16/07/2019 21:24

What a twat. I'd be cooling the friendship, I think.

Imanamechangeninja · 16/07/2019 21:26

I agree with your mum. There is a very strong chance she already knows but doesn’t feel able to tackle it whilst she has other things to worry about.

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