MN give my head a big wobble ref exh

[Spanglyprincess1]

Divorced 6 years now, we're married 8. Married youngish. He is very sucesfull and not a bad man in many ways.
He has a new wife, the ow and a baby plus a step son and I have a child with my partner and 3 dsc.
He denies the ow but I honestly don't care. It was a symptom of our issues in our relationship. We were happy when younger but his work took absolute priority and he was an angry man for a while. I made mistakes, he made mistakes and it didn't work.
He was the love of my life so to. Speak but we couldn't live together.
He messages today out of the blue, not heard from him in a very long time other than when family deaths etc just for a caht. Bragged about his big house and exotic holidays and over 100k income.
Made me a bit sad as we are not poor but about get buy. Older cars and UK hols or cheaper deals.
I'm k ow in reality I'm very lucky I have a decent ish job that's pays my bills, I own my home outright and I have a beautiful healthy son. I have pnd at the mo so it's skewing my view on things.
Give my head a wobble please, my life is bloody fine and I shouldn't be sad!! Also why is he randomly messaging me about this stuff?

You have my sympathy, I left a rich selfish tosser and got myself a kind, funny, sexy but less comfortably off man and sometimes I have to give myself a slap when I catch myself looking in posh shop windows and thinking ‘i used to be able to buy three of those at a time if I wanted to’. (Yes I do work and earn too).

He’s contacted you because he feels the need to boast to you, or because he’s not getting the attention at home that he thinks he deserves, or because he genuinely misses you. He has not contacted you to apologise for being a tosser. Move on.

Thanks! It messes with my brain.

He’s not content hence the need to hang on to his past.

If he was living his life to the full he’d have cut you loose completely and moved on.

I would just block his number, you don’t have children between you so no need for further contact.

You're with a man who loves you and you love.
One who won't cheat on you and who you are happy with.

I tend to find that people who have to tell you how well off they are or how perfect their lives are are generally the unhappiest.
Yes he can afford a holiday to the Maldives, but I bet they don't cuddle up on the sofa with a glass of wine watching Gogglebox.

You're so much happier now, OP. Money can't buy that.

Thanks your 100% correct, my rl mate just said we'll he might be on 100k plus but he's still a dick.
Lol

Another one here who left a rich bully, and now have a partner who has a much smaller income, but we laugh all the time. I don’t envy my ex and his new wife their million pound house and luxury holidays because I suspect she is being bullied and financially controlled by him. His messaging you is a pathetic attempt on his part to retain some control over you.

My exh isn't a bad man, I do genuinely want him to be happy as that's fine, rock on with life.
Just find it a tad odd out of the blue and without reason and just to seem to be bragging for no reason.
I don't envy her either, as he works away 6 days a week and I suspect is very controlling.
If something had happened eg his dad was unwell or a death then I'd expect to hear from him as I would contact him in same.
This was odd.

I'd assume he realises now how happy he would have been with you.
He may even think his money could lure you back, but who knows.

He's trying to make himself feel better for some reason.

My reply would literally be "that's nice, I'm so glad you're as happy as I am, it's amazing how life has turned out"

I'd reply and say thanks for the update about your income etc does that mean you want to increase child support?

We don't have a child together. He has a child with new partner and me with my new partner.
Hence no reason for contact.
It is wierd how life works out.