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Playground politics and class WhatsApp

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Welltroddenpath · 15/07/2019 17:26

My sons school is very small and has a whole school WhatsApp group. It used to be very active, then suddenly lots of the more active people left. I didn’t really notice at the time, but did find it strange that all of the occasional meet ups had stopped. .

Talking to one of the parents who had left, she said one of the parents in the school had said something that upset her so she left. I asked why the other parents had left too. But she didn’t know.

I bumped into one of the other parents and she said her phone was broken, again I didn’t think much of it. Until today. One of them has defriended me from FB which made me realise you have to actively leave a WhatsApp group. A phone has no idea you’re phone is broken.

I tried to text the second parent but her phone is not in use - or she’s blocked me. As far as im aware I didn’t say this offensive thing. But did I? I’m wondering now if it was me. I’m so mild and shy I don’t think it was me.

However I’m not really into drama and only chat to them at school occasions.

But I’m worried now I think that’s the third or fourth parent in a few years I might have cluelessly pissed off with something I can’t work out. I get on with my other kids school parents. The offensive thing was basically calling this mums views moronic, which isn’t something I would ever say. Or did I say something else and that mum is twisting it into a bigger drama? They are both genuinely nice people but maybe one of them is too feisty and defensive 🤣

I don’t think I can do this school gate chat anymore. Why is all such a drama? Even if it wasn’t me it’s got me uneasy so I’m sure it’s not worth the stress of trying to get you know your kids friends parents.

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waitWhatNow · 15/07/2019 18:23

Honestly just don't get drawn in. Leave the WhatsApp group, be polite and say hello and just get on with life. You don't have to have friends at the school gate, you really don't!

Picklypickles · 15/07/2019 18:49

You are much better off out of it all, school is for children, just drop them in and pick them up, smile and make polite small talk if need be and thats it. I have some strange parents at my childrens school, one day they'll be all smiles and good mornings and the next they will walk past me with their snoots in the air and pretending not to see me. I don't know what theire problem is and I really don't care, can't be anything that important if it doesn't warrant a conversation. My kids seem to be doing perfectly well in their friendships without needing me to be friends with their friends parents.

Welltroddenpath · 15/07/2019 18:51

Your right. I have checked the dates on WhatsApp and I’m pretty sure it’s not me, but it’s making me paranoid, which isn’t a nice feeling. I think I’m always going to be second guessing what I say which isn’t a nice feeling.

I don’t think it’s worth the stress whatever the route cause. If it’s not me then I don’t want to be sucked into it either

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Haworthia · 15/07/2019 18:53

They will all have left and set up a secret WhatsApp group where they can talk about people behind their backs.

Ask me how I know Hmm

gamerwidow · 15/07/2019 18:57

If it’s not me then I don’t want to be sucked into it either

So don't get sucked into it then. It's entirely up to you whether or not you get involved in this.

Just leave the group and don't mention it again to anyone. When you meet up with people at the school gates just chat about neutral stuff. It doesn't matter who said what to who or why other people left the group.

Skyejuly · 15/07/2019 19:10

I dont take part in any WhatsApp or messenger chat for the classes. So much less stress.

BubblesBuddy · 15/07/2019 19:19

Leave it. If someone wants to see you they will text you. Or you invite mums over for coffee. I cannot imagine trying to stay “in” with everyone! Nightmare.

sonjadog · 15/07/2019 20:01

How do you know that the problem is that someone called another person’s views moronic?

Cookit · 15/07/2019 20:05

The fact that you are blocked doesn’t look good though.
Are you good enough friends with any of them to get them to dig for you?

AllFourOfThem · 15/07/2019 20:07

I agree that they will now have another WhatsApp group and be just as active on there.

Children who are bullies never grow up.

Welltroddenpath · 15/07/2019 20:33

The first mum to leave told me about the moronic thing. It’s not a word I use so I can’t see how it’s me, useless there’s been some embellishment of something more innocent, but still calling anyone anything it’s something I don’t do. But I do seem to have be blocked?

I try never to go off down controversial topics and I’m not confrontational. But if there’s something going on I don’t want to be involved.

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waitWhatNow · 16/07/2019 12:48

No it just doesn't sound worth the stress and paranoia! I wouldn't bother ask anybody to dig around. I know how horrible it is and it's best to just step out of it!

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