Do some people just have an attractive gene ?

[EnglandInTheCricketFinal]

I went to a birthday (50th) BBQ last night.
One of the guests was a lady in the same age range.
She was v petite, wore a lovely denim shirt dress with flat sandals. No boob on show.
Massive unruly curly blonde hair like Carrie in Sex In The City.
Minimal make up .
I chatted with her & she was just lovely.
Everyone at the BBQ just gravitated towards her. Men & women.
So do some people just have something about them ?

[JennaJaney]

Yes I think some people do have the 'X Factor'

[TipseyTorvey]

Yes, I think if you're blessed with good looks and the charm gene you'll always go far. People want to be around people they like, that make them feel good. I think this is pretty much genetic but certain elements can be taught but you'll never have 'it' like some people do.

[EnglandInTheCricketFinal]

She definitely had ‘it’ in a way I can’t quite define.
As I said she was lovely & I was aghast to watch her wolf 2 x sausages in rolls, slice of birthday cake & a fondant fancy!
No I really liked her but kinda wanted to have a bit of the magic !

[Haggisfish]

Yes but I think it can be learned, to an extent.

[HairyToity]

Yes, there was a girl at school who was very pretty. We will call her Lisa. Her mum was gorgeous. Her mum had worked as an actress before marriage and children. My daughter is in the same class as Lisa's niece. 3 nights a week Lisa's mum picks up her granddaughter. She is still a headturner. Even at 68 everyone stops and stares.

[pallisers]

My mum was extremely attractive and very very pretty and charming all her life. This stayed with her into her 80s. I can remember my friend's fiancee meeting her for the first time when she must have been 82 (and very grief-stricken at the loss of my dad) and his first comment was "she is so beautiful"

She was charming too - really interested in people and really kind. Mind you being liked and admired for most of your life does bring out your narcisstic traits - luckily we her family were able to deal with that :)

[YouGotLittUp]

Charm and confidence can make a person 100x more attractive.

I think it's partly learned, partly genetic; if your parents are good at small talk and able to tell a joke, you surely must absorb some of that.

[31RueCambon]

I think it's charisma. Being completely comfortable in your own personality (rather than skin, because, let's face it, people can know they're not physically perfect but still be incredibly good company)

I know a woman like this. Her teeth aren't great. Her skin isn't great. But she lights up a room because she bounds in smiling and she makes everybody feels more interesting. I would love to be like that.

[HillRunner]

Charm and confidence goes a long way, and people who have them are often popular.

But what does what she ate have to do with it? She can eat what she likes, you had no business being 'aghast'.

[BostonFerl]

Why were you ‘aghast’ she ate at a party?

[HillRunner]

Tbh, one thing that is guaranteed to be a turn off to most people is judging them for the food they eat.

[AnneLovesGilbert]

My sister has it. She turns heads and people are drawn to her and she honestly doesn’t have a clue how stunning she is. The most beautiful woman I know.

[Unburnished]

Yes. I know a couple of women like this. To see a photograph of them, you’d think they were pretty/attractive but nothing special but in the flesh, magic happens.

They’re just bursting with positive energy. You can almost feel the air crackle. They're animated, inquisitive and lively and intelligence and kindness radiate from them. Its hard to tear your eyes away as they're so mesmerising.

Neither one is highly groomed or particularly well dressed but my god, they are beautiful, in every way. Both 5’8” slim, sporty, very long brown hair, green eyes, tanned. They get gifts sent anonymously, flowers, proposals, all sorts.