Why do men think I need a lecture?

[LindaLa]

Went to sainsburys this morning to get some bits and pump tyres up.

Tyre machine has a queue so I go into shop first and will do tyre on way out.

Pull into car park and back into a space. Man is standing at my window, I wind my window down and he says:
"Well done on backing into that, not many can.
Do you realise you've got a low tyre?
It's a lot lower than the others, you need to fix that"
And he carries on and on.

When he paused for breath I said, thanks, I'll sort that now, cheers!

"Make sure you do, I can help you y'know..."

I got out of car, locked it and walked off. He was still talking at me....

This has never happened to me.

Incidentally, why did you let him go on and on and then thank him? I would have said 'yes thanks, I know' followed by 'I'm going to fix it after doing my shopping'

I'm often the recipient of a patronising "well done" due to my parking skills.

It's the only thing I'm really good at!

Why'd I thank him?
To hopefully shut him up!
I do say it quite sarcastically but he just didn't stop.

I feel rather disappointed that no one patronises me when I park

Umm..they are awkwardly trying to chat you up. Believe me, once you hit 50, no one gives a toss how pneumatic your tyres are !

Can honestly say no one has ever complimented my parking 😂

I got this topping up the brake fluid in my car. No less than 3 men approached me asking if I needed their help. No women asked and no I didn't need anyone's help.

No one has ever complimented me on my parking though because I am really not good at that

I once got an "I'm impressed - you parked that even better than I could" from a random middle-aged man. I'm an early morning 20s female.
I just laughed (and was actually really proud)

I'm over 50.
He was ten years older at a guess.
So just think he was trying to prove something to himself!
Hopefully not trying to hit on me.

I would not have an issue with this, I don't mind people talking to me in this way,as it's just chit chat. Some men do like to put their oar in,but it's no big deal, they can't help how they are !

I have seen some women do this,as in say things to men, as in, a man not packing his bags properly at the supermarket checkout,and a woman making comments about it. Best not to get uptight about anything really.

A lot of men don't know how else to be. My oh does it and he said all his male friends do it to each other. I'll say "it's so crowded" and he'll reply with an explanation as to why it's so crowded. I wasn't baffled by the crowd and wondering how it came to be. I respond to all of these with "that's a very plausible explanation" or "it's a good theory", "very fine reasoning". When the conversation stops then he realises what he's done. The funny thing with us is that he's the one who wants to do small talk so I've only made the boring comment for his sake, generally I don't drop lines like these but I do it for him. He's fine when I'm more on the ball and engage him in an interesting topic that we can both think about together.

Infuriating! I got this when I recently went into a dealership to potentially buy a new car.

The salesman stepped into the space I was reversing into (successfully, I might add) to guide and wave me in. I couldn't get in because he was standing there!!! Then he made comments about how tentatively I reverse! I was only tentative because I didn't want to kill him. My poor parking sensors were screaming at me - so off-putting.

And no, I didn't buy a car from him if you're wondering. Dick.

I had a man tell comment on my screen wash filling skills in the supermarket car park earlier this week.
‘You didn’t use all that, did you?’ (Pointing to the nearly empty bottle)
‘Aren’t you supposed to dilute it first?’ (I held up the bottle for him to read ‘Ready to Use’)
‘Well it looks too blue to me’

He was obviously most uneasy at me attempting such a complex task all by myself....

Ha I had this recently. Buying car oil, older man kept asking if I was sure it was the right stuff. I said I hope so as I've been using it for ages. He ignored that and kept offering to come and show me how to top up the oil. Even though I kept saying i had managed it loads of times. It was like it didn't compute that I was perfectly able to do this. Patronising git!!

I had a veh posh gentleman in his 70s compliment me on my parking in a supermarket once. “ well done, I couldn’t have done that better myself”.
Why thank you kind sir ( I’m a police response driver , you plonker and I know how to fekking drive).

I often get complimented on my reverse parking. I can generally reverse park in between two cars fairly quickly and in one go. They normally fake surprise when I get out and I'm a little tiny woman.

It is f'in patronising - I'm sure they wouldn't say it to 6'4 DH when he gets out the car (although this would never happen as it would take him at least four attempts even with his reversing camera).

Mind you I wish someone had offered to help me last time my tyre was down and I was on my bastard hands and knees in a frock on the forecourt.

You reversed

... into a space

Well done you!