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Lost For Words!

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AguerosAngel · 13/07/2019 22:19

I guess this should be in AIBU, but I know that I’m not BU, but I’ve been going round and round in my head with this since last night.

Last night DH and I went to DS annual sports presentation evening, always a good laugh and nice to chat to the parents properly rather than a quick natter at the match or training. The parents are a great bunch and the kids are too, the club has a great ethos and we’re all really happy being part of it.

So, on to my thoughts.

The teams are largely made up of boys, with age range from 8 - 17 (you’ve probably already worked out that it’s football!) The boys were called up team by team for their trophies, and the parents all duly applauded.

DH & I were sat with the other parents from our team, and one of the players from another (older) team walked past and the DM of one of our team members (who was very drunk at this point) leaned over to me, and gestures towards the player who’d just walked past and said to me, “If he was my son I’d still be bathing him”!

I wasn’t sure that I’d heard her correctly so asked her to say it again and she did, and I had heard her correctly.

I just shook my head and turned my back to her, I was/am so disgusted with her.

She’s WhatApped me a few times today saying she was only joking/she was drunk etc, but I’ve just ignored her.

I think she’s vile, you don’t talk about children like that, for clarity the boy in question would be aged 16/17 so still a boy and not an adult. I’m just so shocked by her comments, I really am.

I’m not being ridiculous am I? If it was one of the Dads talking about one of the female players it would be just as bad!!

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LookImAHooman · 13/07/2019 22:22

That is absolutely disgusting.

LookImAHooman · 13/07/2019 22:22

Ew.

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AguerosAngel · 13/07/2019 22:25

I’m so glad other people agree as she’s made me feel like I’m over reacting and that her being drunk is a get out clause!

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Rachelover40 · 13/07/2019 22:25

Stupid thing to say, is the boy very little/young for his age? Some 16-17 year olds do still look like children.

I can't imagine being drunk at a team type event with my children present; still, she did and I expect she regrets it.

Don't read too much into what she said, it was the drink talking. Her behaviour illustrates how stupid and vulgar people can be when in their cups.

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 13/07/2019 22:29

Fucking hell thats vile.

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AguerosAngel · 13/07/2019 22:30

@Rachelover40

The boy is very tall and obviously does lots of sport, he’s at the same school as my DS but a couple of years above.

It just feels very icky to me, Is be blazing if anyone spoke about DS like that, or if I had a DD and one of the Dads spoke about her like that too.

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Rachelover40 · 14/07/2019 13:38

Thanks Agueros.
As he is a big chap I really don't understand what the woman meant when she said that, unless he is known for having poor personal hygiene. I'd ask her what put that idea into her head, I can't put my finger on why but it sounds weird.

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 14/07/2019 14:38

As he is a big chap I really don't understand what the woman meant when she said that,

She meant she finds him (the child) attractive and wants to see him naked. In a sleazy Pervy way. It’s a really disgusting comment.

Rachelover40 · 14/07/2019 15:13

Eeewww, yeuch. I hadn't thought of that. If that's what she meant, it's quite horrible.

DadDadDad · 14/07/2019 15:28

She meant she finds him (the child) attractive and wants to see him naked. In a sleazy Pervy way. It’s a really disgusting comment.

And even worse, she's saying she would do in the hypothetical scenario that the boy in question were her son. So there's some kind of incestuous element going on there too.

WeCameToDance · 14/07/2019 15:43

That's revolting. Unfortunately I can well believe it. Many, many years ago I was doing work experience in a family friends business. She was middle aged and I would have been around 15/16. A boy who was in the same school year as me walks in with his family who are regular customers. The minute they leave she turns to the other staff members and tells them about 'how she could teach him a thing or two in the bedroom department'. I have never forgotten how disgusting I found it and also the fact that nobody seemingly disagreed with her.

1forAll74 · 14/07/2019 16:04

The woman was drunk so you have to overlook drunken talk. So not worth thinking about.

I am an oldie,and was in the local pub recently,I only usually have one wine,so not drunk ever.But I made a funny comment about sex toys,and several drunk people were up in arms about my comment, as there is a serious lack of humour in the pub !

LookImAHooman · 14/07/2019 19:34

1forall there is absolutely zero parallel between a pub comment about sex toys and what this woman said, sober or not. Pretty certain most parents wouldn’t think something like that even ten sheets to the wind. And she knows it’s utterly vile based on her sober messages to the OP. It’s completely rank.

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