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What have you done that your parents advised against?

41 replies

Geraniumpink · 13/07/2019 20:29

I’ve got married, had a child and got pierced ears. Hardly a massive rebellion, but my parents didn’t want me to do any of it.

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Nordicwannabe · 13/07/2019 20:38

A round the world trip with DP (now DH). We were mid-20s, no kids, owned our house (which we rented out for the duration) and in professional jobs which allowed us to take an unpaid sabbatical. Very fortunate position!

DM worried about our jobs, and also worried that our relationship might not survive it. DF worried that we might have an accident/end up in trouble abroad, and might not make it back at all. They suggested that we should wait until we were retired to travel! Grin

ZeldaPrincessOfHyrule · 13/07/2019 20:38

Everything. And yet I'm still here and I'm awesome Grin

Seriously though, the (by no means exhaustive) list of things my Dad (and Mum, because she thinks the same things he tells her to) has objected to consists of my GCSE/A Levels/uni degree/career choice, my boyfriend (now DH), where I wanted to get married, how long DS2's hair is and how many times I've had my ears pierced.

lastqueenofscotland · 13/07/2019 20:41

Got tattoos

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elQuintoConyo · 13/07/2019 20:41

Marrying DH.
Moving abroad.
Learning Spanish.
DS' name.
Speaking to DS in Spanish (around his Spanish friends and their Spanish parents).
Where i live. How i live.
What I do in my freetime.
Where I go on holiday.

Not surprised I live abroad Grin

Giggorata · 13/07/2019 20:46

Practically everything. They were very small c conservative and happy to lead a quiet (dull) life, albeit in gorgeous surroundings. Perhaps they had had enough excitement during the war.....

Lllot5 · 13/07/2019 20:47

Got married. They were right too should have listened.

SimonJT · 13/07/2019 20:49

Be myself.

RosaWaiting · 13/07/2019 20:52

I expect most of us have too many things to count!

In my case, wrong jobs, not getting married and having children....on and on really.

When my mum’s gone I’m going to leave London....they believe in that “tired of London” trope and mum seems to think you can’t get anything outside London. Dad’s gone but if I move north he’ll hate that even more!

Parents eh.

Original poster
Geraniumpink · 13/07/2019 20:54

Kind of confirms my belief that it is really hard to please parents - you summed it up beautifully SimonJT !

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lljkk · 13/07/2019 20:57

Mostly they despair about what I didn't do rather than what I have done.

Big one I did do, was Switch from Unit to middle Uni.

BSintolerant · 13/07/2019 20:57

Everything!

GMtoBe · 13/07/2019 20:58

Accepting my size instead of being on a diet forever.

PortiaCastis · 13/07/2019 21:00

Married a feckin idiot

Numbersaremything · 13/07/2019 21:00

Got engaged & married in my early 20s to someone I met on my first day at uni. Silver wedding next month & I still managed to have a great career. Mum & Dad think he's wonderful.

inthebackground · 13/07/2019 21:01

Breathing Grin

DramaAlpaca · 13/07/2019 21:01

Married DH, had a third child, moved to DH's home country... I could go on.

Speckledhen10 · 13/07/2019 21:03

Didn’t marry the right man. I thought he was boring. I married the dodgy boy that they warned me against.
They were right. I was wrong.

nevernotstruggling · 13/07/2019 21:11

Got lots of things pierced. Had dd2

Gooseygoosey12345 · 13/07/2019 21:14

Everything? If they advised against it I pretty much did it Grin
I turned out ok and have a great relationship with my parents, just everyone has stopped attempting to tell me what to do (it's about time as I'm nearly 30, my mum likes to "manage" us)

Chickenish · 13/07/2019 21:14

Swam in the river Jordan (admittedly I didn’t know they thought it was a bad idea until afterwards).

What did they do to make it safe to christen that royal baby with it?

Redcrayons · 13/07/2019 21:15

Get an endowment mortgage. They were right.

BooseysMom · 13/07/2019 21:17

Get married to DH. He wasn't a nice doctor or a teacher so they were against him from the start

WitsEnding · 13/07/2019 21:19

Left school at 16. Sex before marriage. Spent 10 years enjoying the single life before considering marriage. Took my career seriously even after having children.

I have learnt to discount DM's opinion on anything unrelated to household management. I know she means well.

pointythings · 13/07/2019 21:21

Not much, actually.

Breastfed both my DDs for over a year - but my DM meant well, she wanted to protect mefrom disappointment because she couldn't BF us.

Divorced my H - my dad was gone by this point, my DM was convinced that if only I was nicer to him, he'd stop drinking himself to death...

TemporaryPermanent · 13/07/2019 21:26

Pierced ears, but only because piercings make my mum feel sick.

Sex before marriage ('I hope you said no' was the majority of my sex education).

Spending money on crap.

Going on holiday in high season.

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