I'm fuming.
I'm a sahm, I home Ed our youngest DC (8). I run a cake business from home. Dh owns a company, works long hours. We have 6 DC, eldest lives with bf, next is 21, lives at home then 4 younger DC.
Dh pays for everything, he gives me an allowance/housekeeping per month for groceries, fuel, home Ed stuff/groups. I earn pocket money from my cake business, less than £200 a month.
Recently we collected some money from a paid for event at our home. It's in a bag. Few hundred quid.
On the evening of the event I told dh that I'd used some of the cash to pay for something for the event. A porta loo. He had a go at me in front of my friend and another person for taking his money without asking. It was embarrassing. When they'd left I told him he was out of order and he apologized.
Yesterday I gave our DD £20 to go to a concert from the bag. Today she was at work and I paid a tradesman from the bag for work on our garage.
I told him earlier about using the cash and he's just had another go at me saying we've had this conversation before , I've told you about that. It's my money not yours.
I'm so angry I can't even look at him. He doesn't even know there's anything wrong.