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Is this passive aggressiveness to you?

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BlubBlob · 13/07/2019 14:24

I was on a different website and someone I have never interacted with went through my post history and started questioning me about what I post about. They questioned me and asked me to explain to them why I’ve been posting what I was posting about.

I felt like “why do you want me to give you personal information about myself?” I didn’t want to answer their question and thought they were very rude for asking me in the first place especially as I couldn’t even remember most of what I posted about in previous years.

They called me a “white troll” and I was confused by this accusation. I told them think what you like but I was confused by this interaction because it seemed so bizarre.

I made a thread asking if anyone else had a similar experience of feeling attacked, name calling to me seems like an attack. I wanted to know if anyone had had the same experience of being personally attacked before and stated I found it weird when it happened to me.

The person calling me names like white troll said I was passive aggressive and said I didn’t have the confidence to @ them. They also insulted me for being passive aggressive for several months after that, claiming they had endured my passive aggressiveness. This is after I already directly told them several times why they bothered me.

I’m confused. Am I passive aggressive? I thought I was very direct so I’m unsure where the passive aggression coming from in this particular situation.

OP posts:
BlubBlob · 13/07/2019 14:28

In general, I feel like there’s a difference between being direct and being rude. I’m not willing to say something that I feel is rude for the sake of being direct. Is this passive aggressive?
Should I just say whatever I feel like saying whenever? I’m not sure when to speak up and when not to.

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MIdgebabe · 13/07/2019 14:30

Why respond at all? It seems clear it’s not a good person.

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