Why do people do this??

[hidinginthenightgarden]

I am feeling quite frustrated at the moment.
Meant to be meeting a friend tomorrow, picking her up at 11.30.
She changes her number so often that we communicate through FB. I have messaged today asking where she wants picking up from and she hasn't even read it. Considering we are meeting tomorrow, I am annoyed she isn't trying to make arrangements too. She often cancels last minute and so I feel like I am waiting to be fobbed off last minute. Someone else has asked if I am free and I don't know until I get an answer from the first friend.
My mum, may or may not be visiting sometime this weekend. I text earlier to ask if and which day she wanted to visit and had no response. We are hoping to book something on whichever day she isn't coming so would like to know.
Tried to ring her tonight and she answered but my phone is playing up and I cannot hear anything. She tried to ring me back a few times but it didn't work. So, instead, I sent her another text, and have had no response!
Why is my time less valuable than everyone elses? Does this annoy anyone else or am I being uptight?

Cancel her first through FB and don't turn up. That would bug the life out of me.

Does my head in. I had a friend like this. Happened one too many times and I told her if had enough and don't want to meet up again. She got all huffy and couldn't see the problem with being so flaky

HollowTalk - I can't turn up anyway. She hasn't told me where to meet her!
The friend is one thing. My bloody mother doing it really annoys me. I rang her and vice versa multiple times so she knows I want to speak to her. Surely if someone has tried to contact you, you keep your phone nearby so would be able to respond. Also sent her a FB message but got nothing.

Could it be an issue with their handsets? On mine, if I don't have chat, WhatsApp or whatever 'open' then I have no idea that I have any messages. I've tried changing every setting there is, but it doesn't help.

DS used to tell me this happened with his handset, and I didn't believe him. Then I bought a new handset and it was the same make as his, and guess what, he was right. Bloody frustrating!

Doesn't help with your immediate problem though.

On the other hand, why let your friend control what you do? Just text her and say this weekend no longer suits you, make other plans, and that's half your problem solved.

Longer term, can you work on your mother to give you more notice?

Your time IS just as valuable as everyone else's, so don't hand over control of it to other people.

I think what you should do is pack a little bag and go off for the weekend and let them sort themselves out.

Nothing to do with handsets. My mum has text now.
I have told second friend I will meet her. If 1st friend gets in touch she will have to tag along or rearrange.