DC are 4 (nearly 5) and 21 months. I work 4 days a week. Nothing in particular is wrong- I love my children and my job, but I have such little time for myself.
Typical day is get up 6.45am, leave at 7.45 and drop DD at nursery or go straight to work if GP are looking after DD (DH drops DS at school). Leave work at 4.30/4.45 ish to pick up both DCs and get home 5.45pm. Bf toddler while DH makes dinner. Eat, do dishes and sort laundry. Wrangle kids upstairs at 7pm and get them ready for bed. DH and I then each take one child and read to then before sleep and lights out. DD is fed to sleep, or will sleep for DH with cuddles and is usually asleep by 7.45pm. DS has light out at 8pm, then usually listens to an audio book for half an hour while I do chores (e.g. make my lunch, sort book bag, admin etc). 8.30pm audio book goes off and I sit on the stairs while DS goes to sleep. Finally I get to go downstairs around 9pm. Sometimes still have bits of jobs to do, other times can watch tv. DD will wake around 9.30pm usually, and won't settle for DH. I go to bed around 11pm, which is far too late as DD wakes a further 3 times in the night usually. I end up sleeping on a futon on the floor next to her.
I feel crap that I don't do enough exercise. I get to go to the gym during lunchtime at work, but frequency is variable - some weeks I can go three times, others once or not at all depending on workload and meetings. I don't have time for any hobbies. It's difficult to meet up with friends - I used to manage a lot better when I just had one DC. Weekends we usually do one or two things together like playground, swimming etc, then usually have jobs at home e.g. batch cooking, gardening, bits of shopping. Plus endless birthday parties.
I'm not sure where I'm going wrong. Clearly sleep is an issue as I have no evening. DS has never needed a lot of sleep, and the light evenings have made this even worse. We have made some progress as he at least stays in his bed now in the evening rather than constantly coming downstairs, and I have moved from sitting in his room to on the stairs. DD needs to be night weaned, which I hope to do soon. Am I missing anything else obvious?