Cheesed Off With Rude People

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I am young(ish) but walk with a stick due to a disability.

Today I am so hacked off by the amount of people who like to play ‘push in front of the woman with a stick’. On the street, at pedestrian crossings and now boarding a train a family with a buggy just barged me out of the way to get on and made a beeline for the disabled seating area! I don’t sit there anyway as it’s designed for Wheelchair users but still.

Surely it’s not too much to ask that we show each other a bit of common courtesy?

Can't you just say something to them, loudly?

I've noticed how awful people are when I take my 93 year old mother out. I don't think people consider others until they experience it first hand.

Well yes I probably should but I can’t be doing with the confrontation. If I needed the seat then I would.

Nitgel you’re so right. It really seems to be survival of the fittest

I recently walked patiently behind an old lady with a stick along a narrow bit of pavement as I was going into the bank 30 yards ahead. Sure enough, she shuffled into the bank too, went to the only open teller and produced a bag of bills and cheques and other stuff to do her month’s banking! I only had a cheque, wouldnt have taken 30 seconds. I wish I’d nipped into the road and gone round her!

Generally people are arses

I get this too OP. I' am disabled and have used a walking stick while I'm out and about for 20 years now (I'm 55). Nearly every day I witness examples of people's thoughtlessness/rudeness towards those who are less able bodied than them. E.g. not being offered a priority seat on buses/trains,charging at me with with a pushchair while I'm getting off the exit door of a bus,kicking my stick from under me because they insist on walking on my heels,getting elbowed to the back of a bus queue despite being there first,being told that I can't use the lift somewhere because it's 'only for people in wheelchairs',being had a go at for using a disabled toilet that is combined with a nappy change. I could go on.......

Austenozzy. You’re a good sort.

It works two ways though, if I am holding people up (like being slow like you describe) I try to stand aside and let them past. On this occasion I didn’t get the chance to be slow!

Some people are just twats. I politely asked a woman who had parked over my driveway if she could please move her car. I even apologised for getting her out of the cafe next door to move it and explained that I had a hospital appt. I have no hair and a fucking picc line on so it's obvious I'm going through some kind of treatment. She was so rude about it, I'm afraid my 'nice' hat slipped and I told her that of she didn't move I couldnt guarantee that the dodgy handbrake (it's not) wouldn't mean that my ancient old car rolled into her lovely new range rover.

Ben - that’s terrible! Who the hell does that!

ALong - yup!

We've lived here a long time and to be honest I can only think of a handful of times when people have parked over our drive because most people are not arseholes! But I seem to be coming across more and more of them in everyday life these days!

My cousin and his gf are blind. You wouldn't believe the amount of times taxi drivers rip them off by not driving them to their requested destination and dumping them miles away from where they need to be, but still charging them for the full journey.

Or people who refuse to help them with getting the right public transport.

Some people are just utter shits.

But, OTOH there's a woman who walks with a stick at my DCs school. To get to our kids classrooms for pick up we have to walk all the way around the back of the school via a long path, which has a hedge on one side and a fence on the other. She walks super slow. I get she's disabled and can't help that, but this path can accommodate the width of two to three people, but she refuses to walk further to her right or left to let others pass her. She deliberately walks smack bang in the middle with her stick out wide and tuts & huffs, throws dirty looks and grumbles "I'm disabled you know!" if anyone tries to walk around her.

It would not hinder or hurt her in anyway to just leave a gap at one side for non-disabled people to simply walk past her. Yes she's disabled and people need to take care when walking past her, but it doesn't entitle her to the whole footpath.

Yadi you are so right. It does the rest of us no favours. As I said before, I often stand to the side to let people past, and usually quip “you’d better go ahead or you’ll be here for ever”