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Out of control son

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Sany83 · 10/07/2019 10:28

Hi my son is 13 years Old I'm at my wit's end with him he's behaviour is out of control I can't speak to him without him getting angry, he also stolen money punched holes in the walls, he's has held a knife up to me he's hit me and his twin sisters.

He's attitude is i don't care, we've taken xbox of him his phone, we've stopped his football as his attitude and behaviour was getting out of hand.

We give him everything he wants but still says we don't and that the twins get more but they have all the same.

Just need some advice please on how to get my son back who was such a happy lad

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Bezalelle · 10/07/2019 10:32

Has anything happened recently in his life that may be affecting his behaviour? x

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Sany83 · 10/07/2019 10:35

No everything was fine till he started secondary school

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Singlenotsingle · 10/07/2019 10:37

Have you asked him? Is it the new school? Is he being bullied? You can't let it carry on because he's going to get bigger and stronger.

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Sany83 · 10/07/2019 10:41

He is already bigger and stronger than me. Everything seems fine at school only missing homework.
He has got a lot of friends but not sure if there the right ones

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Wildorchidz · 10/07/2019 10:45

I’m not normally in favour of contacting the police about badly behaved teenagers but threatening with a knife warrants it. Do you think he would take a knife with him when he goes out? He could end up being stabbed or stabbing someone.

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Sany83 · 10/07/2019 10:56

I don't think he would do that and we don't allow him out the street

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Wildorchidz · 10/07/2019 11:00

Did you think he would hold a knife to you ?
And does he not go out ever ?

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Sany83 · 10/07/2019 11:25

No we did let him out with his friends and found out he was causing trouble

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Pringlesaremoreish · 10/07/2019 15:15

Hi Sany83, if this behaviour has just suddenly started then I'd be inclined to think there may be more to it than he's just out of control. It might be worth talking to the school, a counsellor etc. There are also a few charities who might be able to give you some support- YoungMinds, Kidscape etc.
Hope you get to the bottom of it as I can't imagine how hard this must

Pringlesaremoreish · 10/07/2019 15:16

be.
(just to finish that message off )

Frith2013 · 10/07/2019 15:34

Get some professional help sooner, rather than later, as the waiting lists are very long.

School or the GP will be the first port of call.

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