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There’s a bloke (married) at my work who’s shagging two different women

42 replies

Babadouche · 09/07/2019 21:26

I only started there 4 months ago. Had heard all about it by the end of the first week.

Ran into him maybe twice. Last week he kept randomly turning up in my office, today he came in for a chat for 20 mins Hmm

He’s way way above my pay grade so I can’t really tell him to fuck off. My manager (female) came in after he left and asked what he wanted, I didn’t have anything to say so just said fuck knows he was just chatting. She told me to watch myself with him, not in a horrible way but in an advice kind of way.

I’ve got no interest in shagging a married man, especially not one who’s known as the company slut.

Advice? I’m thinking if he comes in again just monosyllabic answers and staring at my screen, but he’s my bosses boss so also don’t want to be rude

OP posts:
CalmFizz · 10/07/2019 08:44

I think if he tried again I’d breezily say something about him having many women to entertain in the workplace from the grapevine, and I’m not one of them.

MadamBatty · 10/07/2019 08:48

Every time he comes in, smile answer his question then get up & go to the loo. He’ll get bored

HollowTalk · 10/07/2019 08:51

You can't say something like that, @calmfizz!

Frownette · 10/07/2019 08:57

@HollowTalk, agree! That sounds a little like I am juicy, ripe and ready would you like to pick me?

Also like it's his choice. It isn't.

It's fine so far and OP sounds switched on, the love of Jesus or some handily placed knitting needles sound like a good idea, or just ignoring him

DinosApple · 10/07/2019 09:23

Leave the door open, I've just farted and it's a stinker.

That might help. Not that you should have to do it.

Love the Jesus idea too.

Chocmallows · 10/07/2019 09:32

Tell him painfully slowly about your passion for...religion, knitting, moving snails by hand from your garden...yawn and look through him, blow dust from your keyboard...do not over enthuse about anything he says. Infact don't let him talk, anything he says you twist to you and your hobby. If he's on phone go to the loo, catch up with boss, act like he's thin air and of no interest. He'll get bored!

Al2O3 · 10/07/2019 09:51

He only wants you to borrow his hole punch...

steppemum · 10/07/2019 10:12

Is there a sexual harrassment at work type poster you could get?
You know there sort of thing which gives a hotline number.

The next time he is in, you could point to it and say - I'm really excited I recently did some training in this and I think it is a really important issue.

Pogmella · 10/07/2019 10:25

If you stand up and walk to the door when you want someone to leave they’ll pick up the cue. Worth a shot! I read it online after dealing with a guy at work (not a sleaze just a chronic chronic bore)

Opossooom · 10/07/2019 10:43

If you don’t have a boyfriend/girlfriend pretend you do! Maybe pick your nose whilst he’s there or let out a massive fart. Cover Vaseline all over your face so you get loads of spots? And don’t brush your teeth and really breathe on him. I’ve had one of these before, just not wearing make up wasn’t enough. I still wasn’t able to get away from him. 🤢 sorry OP just a bit of light humour. Mine would announce that one day I would be his wife (he was not married but had a partner with a child 🤢) the cheek of some people is a disgrace.

PippiDeLena · 10/07/2019 13:12

Coolcoolcoolcoolcool

Maybe a more subtle way of saying that like 'thanks for giving me so much attention, and checking on how I'm settling in, but it's really not necessary as I know you are very busy at the moment.'

This is a really dignified way of dealing with it, and definitely prop your door open somehow to remove and sense of intimacy that a closed door might bring.

He sounds like a complete creep, and it's frustrating that someone in a position of authority is allowed to get away with sizing up potential affair partners in work's time.

Frownette · 10/07/2019 13:17

@steppemum Grin

I'm sure you can deter any potential advances easily OP. Not that you should be put into this position but some people attempt to take advantage

Original poster
Babadouche · 10/07/2019 20:11

He came in today Hmm

And had huge sweat patches under his arms (salmon pink shirts are not forgivable) [vomit]

I just got up and went as if I was about to leave anyway when he walked in

OP posts:
ForalltheSaints · 10/07/2019 21:06

I think the Bible on the desk is the best idea.

Coolcoolcoolcoolcool · 10/07/2019 22:23

Nice work op!

Cakemadeoffruit · 11/07/2019 06:29

So, he came in the chat to a new employee and get to know them and because he has a reputation of being a player with consenting partners he's a sex pest who should be reported to HR?

Cherrysoup · 11/07/2019 06:57

So, he came in the chat to a new employee and get to know them and because he has a reputation of being a player with consenting partners he's a sex pest who should be reported to HR?

Not reported, but he’s not her manager so he has no need to be sniffing round her.

Keep getting up every time he comes near you, Op, unless he’s terminally thick, he’ll soon realise what you’re up to.

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