I've been with my partner for 9 years but lately I'm beyond had it with his behaviour. To cut a long story short his daughter was removed from her mother's care by social services 8 years ago and I've raised her as my own ever since. Her mother didn't see her for several years after this. I took her to school and picked her up everyday, went to every school event ect. My partner likes to throw in my face when he's drunk, which is most days that I don't work. Which I do just not as many hours as him as I'm part time. My step daughter has been self harming very badly for the past 2 years. Her Camhs counselor thinks it's down to abandonment issues. I'm worried to death about her as she's cut very deep and tried to take an overdose. ( I stayed with her in the hospital while she was being treated) I really want her to get better but fear her dad is part of the problem. He's an alcoholic. He drinks wine every night and often gets nasty with me. He's always had a nasty drunk streak but it's getting worse. He's not violent but he's evil. I'm lazy I don't contribute ( lies) he pays for everything. I'm a thorn in his side blah blah blah. I literally have given my all to him. Nothing is ever good enough. When I said I've looked after your child like she's my own I was answered with maybe that's the reason she cuts herself. I know this is wrong. I want to leave I can't handle his drunken emotional abuse any longer. But I can't leave my step daughter behind. I love her as much as my own son. They're both my kids in my heart. I fear me leaving with her issues could tip her over the edge. We're not married so I have no legal rights. I'm staying for her but also worry that by staying I'm showing her this behaviour is acceptable and she'll end up in an abusive relationship too. I just can't not be here for her. Sorry for the long post but I'd appreciate any advice