Should I be worried about this?

[Tempoaryname12]

Would you be worried about these bruises on the back of my childs arm?

Name changed for obvious reasons.

I would want to know how they were caused .What does your child say ?

They say their dad grabbed their arm.

Is he your ex?
If not he should be....

He grabbed their arm in an emergency situation? What were the circumstances? Has their dad got a temper?

They say their dad grabbed their arm.

So why are you asking if you should be worried. That is not ok. How old is your child?

Yes I would be concerned. And I would be suspending contact!

It depends what what the grab was for. If they were grabbing to stop them falling or running in to the road then I might think.It was ok but otherwise yes you should be worried.

Mmm .As in preventing an accident ,like running into the road ? If not ,then I domt think I'd be v happy .

What does their father say ?

They are too old to be running in roads. My child can be difficult and when I asked why he said he grabbed him for no reason. I only asked if I should be worried as they are in a square so not exactly fingerprint shaped. My ex doesnt have much patience with him.

I haven't spoken to him yet as I dont have much contact with him. He was emotionally abusive to me.

I only asked if I should be worried as they are in a square so not exactly fingerprint shaped

What do you mean?

You know your ex grabbed the child.

In what context did Dad grab the child? How old is the child? If, for example, the child had been running into the street, there’s no cause for alarm. If the father (I assume your ex?) grabbed him in anger when disciplining the child, it’s not okay.

I think you need to know the context, and if the grabbing was done in anger, you need to ask your children if Dad has been physical with them on other occasions, and then you have to lay down the law with Dad.

Oops. X posted.

You, or someone else, needs to speak to the ex and tell him he cannot be manhandling your child.

I don't think those look like bruises from being grabbed, I can't envision how the hand would be to hold the arm and leave bruises in a square like that.

Regardless of the bruises you'll need to talk to your ex about whether he did grab your son.

Thumb print and finer print almost meeting as the hand has gone round the arm. There are 2 sets because the child has been grabbed twice.

Th big print is the thumb and the small print is the forefinger as the hand has gone round the arm.

Had to google an image to explain!

Bruises have come from pressure from thumb and one finger (child arm being smaller than adults.

There is another set further down the arm because the child was grabbed twice.

Thanks for explaining. The child is 12 and has behavioural problems. I have had to have words with ex before about threatening violence and winding child up for no reason.

Spoke to ex who immediately went on the defensive saying they are a liar and that they have never done anything wrong ever.

They are two grab marks.

To bruise a child like that they have been grabbed hard. Only 2 explanations for such force- 1) emergency, such as falling off something or running into something, but that won't have happened twice or 2) deliberate force/ abuse.

Please prevent your child seeing this person alone again. Otherwise you are being negligent and facilitating the abuse.

Bruises aside, why is your ex allowed contact with your DS when he has threatened him with violence and deliberately winds up a child with behavioural problems?

He has minimal contact I did cut contact before but ss encouraged that they had a relationship. I was in a bad way back then and not thinking clearly but hes not seeing them from now on.

I have let them down before I'm not doing it again.

Keep those photos op. And keep a diary - I suspect some sort of a use will follow your way. Well done for realising you need to keep ds away from him. Let a judge decide next time. Ss can whistle.

Thank you I have reported it.