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Should boyfriend see a gp?

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SeagullPoopOnYourHead · 07/07/2019 01:36

Bf and I stopped using contraception over a year ago but nothing has happened yet- he's told me he is convinced that he can't have kids.
I have children from a previous relationship but only have 1 fallopian tube due to an ectopic many years ago which I know will make it harder to concieve.
Would the nhs check his sperm count if he doesn't have children of his own or would they refuse because I already have children? I know if he comes back all clear we'd have to self fund any tests for me given that I've got kids.
Also when do you start looking into stuff like this? Is a year too soon? Should we just keep going and see if anything happens? I think the problem lies with me. He thinks it's him. Just wondering when we should start to worry, it's all been very relaxed so far and even the discussions we've had about fertility have been very low key and jovial.

I'm of the opinion that if it's not possible then we have my beautiful children and should count our blessings and he has said as much- hes been their father figure for most of their lives, but I also know he'd like a child of his own.

Just not sure what we should do next.

OP posts:
SimplySteveRedux · 07/07/2019 01:43

Mine was checked years ago, after a year of trying to conceive so yes, they should.

Kez200 · 07/07/2019 08:52

Its worth being checked so you know the chances. Then you can carry on trying with some sort of realistic expectation, and be happy with those youve been blessed with.

FaithInfinity · 07/07/2019 09:18

You need to go as a couple for initial tests. They should be able to do a sperm analysis for him and bloods for you to check you’re ovulating and also they might do an HSG (where they’ll check your remaining Fallopian tube isn’t blocked). How they do it depends on your trust - in mine they do the tests then refer you to the fertility clinic but in some areas it’s the fertility clinic that does the tests. Unfortunately you probably wouldn’t be eligible for IVF on the NHS because you already have children but it might not come to that.

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