Just sold my wedding and engagement rings...feel so sad

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ExH and I split up 4 years ago (my decision) and he's been an utter cockwomble ever since. I'm absolutely skint and have had to sell my rings this weekend. They were absolutely stunning vintage Art Deco, and I hated parting with them even though I've not worn them for 4 years and never would again.

I've absolutely no desire to get back with exH and in fact have a lovely DP but this sadness has really floored me.

AIBU to have a little wallow then get on with life again?

It was a big part of your life which I am sure you have some happy memories from. I think it would be normal to feel a little sad and probably healthy enough too. At least you are not feeling bitter or anger, that would be a worse place to be.

Let yourself feel sad, I think I would feel the same. Hopefully you’ll feel better after a little wallowing

I think you were right to sell them and I can understand why you are sad. It's another part of putting the past behind you. Be excessively gentle with yourself.

Well done. I'm not ready to do that.

Where did you sell them? Did you get a decent price?

Are you upset because they were your engagement & wedding rings or because you loved the actual rings themselves ?

I would expect you to feel something. Like you say, you’ll wallow a bit and then get on with life.

IncrediblySadToo I think it's a combination of both. It's remembering when I got those rings how excited and hopeful I was; they were the most precious things I owned. Now they've become memories of a more carefree time.

But I did genuinely love them as pieces of jewellery too.

We bought them from a vintage jewellery shop and I sold them back to them. I had tried a couple of other jewellers but they were only prepared to offer me a price based on scrap weight-the pieces are far too lovely to be scrapped.

I felt the same way. I really loved my engagement ring and was so sorry to see it go, but I needed the money and couldn't justify keeping it. The hurt does ease.