I would class myself as an introvert. I’ve always struggled with shyness and found making friends difficult but I can usually hide my discomfort fairly well. I am a good, relaxed looking conversationalist. People often describe me as calm and laid back. Inside I’m usually feeling tense.
My partner has a close friendship group. All of this group have partners who are very different. My partner regularly tries to convince me I could be great friends with 1 or 2 of them. All are lovely, lovely people but I have no common ground with any of them and if I’m being completely honest, I have no interest in socialising with them.
I work Monday - Friday in a physical job and cherish my weekends. I hate having days or evenings set aside to spend time with people where I have to make small talk about things I don’t really care about.
I’m aware that I probably sound horrible. I haven’t ever told my partner that I have zero interest in it and always respond with enthusiasm when he suggests doing something with other people. It’s making me wonder if I’m too fussy about who I befriend?
I have 1 close friend. We met on a random night out and clicked instantly. She became like a sister to me within a few weeks. That was 7 years ago and still stands. So I know I am capable of clicking with people and enjoying their company.
Am I just too friend fussy?