Is it worth seeing someone 10 years older who's going through a divorce?

[LettuceBeFree]

Is it worth seeing someone 10 years older who's going through a divorce?

Met online, said he was primarily looking for friendship and see where it goes from there. We met in person and he seems super keen, we're both very bubbly, chatty and humorous so time flies. He seemed super nervous when we first met.

Says they separated ~half a year ago. Long marriage of 11 years, no kids (think inability to conceive was one of the reasons for the split). He seems super sincere, no red flags yet (and I've met a lot of fake, dishonest player types where I could see red flags even at start and he doesn't seem like one of those - at least not on first impression).

I've not had much luck in terms of relationships (been single for 2 years - have just had dates that ended up going nowhere/fizzling out) so I don't want to dismiss everyone in the hope of finding mr.perfect but equally wouldn't want to give something a go if it was 0% of working out well... anyone got any positive stories from such situations?

P.S I'd never get physically intimate with anyone whilst they're technically still married.

At your age you still have so much time to meet someone else. The level of baggage here, I'm not sure I could be bothered.

I don’t think the age difference is a problem.

Six months after separating is still fairly new. I would step cautiously. You could be a rebound,

I've been in your situation. It went very badly. I'd keep your options open.

I think it depends on why they separated, & if the relationship is very much over, some times they just are

There isn’t 10 years between me & DH, but he was separated, & had been around 6 months when we met. Relationship was very much over, with no chance of them reconciling, she was in a relationship with someone else & a few months after we met she moved away from the area.

When we met his ex was living in her house, him in his. They didn’t however get divorced until they’d been separated for 2 years, so they could go no fault divorce.

We’ve been married 20+ years & 4 dc

Thanks so far everyone

Lots of differing experiences here. Why not just “keep him on your radar” but don’t get too drawn in - ie make sure you’re dating other men, don’t sleep with him, meet for coffee or sober lunch rather than boozy intimate nights? If this interaction has legs it will make itself clear over time and you may make a friend - I’m wary of people who do the whole DATE ME RIGHT NOW act as often it’s because they know they’ve got issues. Don’t be his shoulder to cry on or get too involved in his marriage stuff.