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Help me settle over tired baby

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PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 05/07/2019 20:24


We are having a crap evening as DD (6 weeks) is all over the place and isn’t settling.

She’s not taking any more milk.

She’s got a clean nappy

We suspect trapped wind but have tried every technique to get a burp or fart out - nothing.

Tried walking her round in sling wrap

Tried pushing her in Buggy

Tried holding her

And obviously tried her in her cot.

No CMPA allergy and not breastfed.

*When you’ve had an overtures new born what have you done to settle them”?

Sadly the Internet seems to say everything that can be covered by silent reflux, colic and overtiredness.

Help, I’ve not been able to put her down for 2 hrs straight

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Sweetooth92 · 05/07/2019 20:28

I remember one night vividly when my son was that sort of age. In the end after about 4 hours he had gripe water and we put him in his car seat and swung it like a pirate ship ride for about 20 minutes between us, until he was absolutely knocked out with a car seat blanket under him. We then extracted him from the seat using the blanket into his next to me and didn’t breathe for the next god knows how long.

We also found pinning his limbs to his side while rocking and shushing worked when he was a state, as did stroking downwards between his eyes.

Good luck, it seems like its impossible now but it will get better. Xxx

PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 05/07/2019 20:43

Honestly @sweetooth92 all I want is a cuppa and and not in a position to put her down else she’s going to wake my other two who’ve been mental for most of today.

Checking the Wonder Weeks App is also making me understand things more but CHRIST it tiring. I’ve been up since 4.40 straight.

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mineofuselessinformation · 05/07/2019 20:44

Do you have anyone who can pop her in the buggy and take her for a walk round the block or for a drive in the car?

misslucienne · 05/07/2019 20:44

Have you tried white noise? Our newborn would settle straight off to it if all else had failed.

userabcname · 05/07/2019 20:50

Bouncer chair with vibrate setting on if you have one - was the only thing DS would settle in other than my arms.
White noise on LOUD - did nothing unless I played the app on my ipad at full volume!
Bicycle legs if you suspect wind - keep going until you get a good burp/fart/poo.
Good luck!

Passmethecrisps · 05/07/2019 20:54

My first was a error for over tiredness.

We did the wild swinging of the car seat

Standing next to the fridge and just listening to the hum

Holding her up over my shoulder and facing a plain wall (apparently good for over stimulation)

What actually worked was swaddling. Both of mine were swaddled until very late and it worked absolute wonders for calming them down. My eldest would scream like a banshee until the final tuck in and she was visibly calm.

RedCrab · 05/07/2019 20:54

A bath would often completely calm and change the energy of my over tired babies. Plus water is relaxing and would often help with gripey tummies. Sometimes I used to fill the bath really full and hold them supported in the “deep” water and just let them relax into it. After that, back into pjs and most likely more milk (baths make babies hungry??) and they’d relax into sleep.

HandsUpHere · 05/07/2019 21:00

Cool darkened quiet room. Keep winding her because if she's screaming she is gulping air. If it's very warm don't swaddle but use a fan to cool the room.

Wellhellojonsnow · 05/07/2019 21:01

A bit controversial but have you considered a dummy? DD was a very upset baby (due to colic) and it was a godsend. It really calmed her. We went cold turkey from 9 months and she never had it again (did same with DS too). Swaddling tightly helped too.

moreismore · 05/07/2019 21:01

Assuming not bf (in which case my answer would always be skin to skin and feed) then a warm bath and walk round with baby in sling or carrier-I did laps of the garden. They just want to be on a person all the time but I know it’s exhausting.

nespressowoo · 05/07/2019 21:04

Skin to skin. Strip her down to her nappy.

Jokie · 05/07/2019 21:09

Swaddling helped us when DD was that young. We also tried the rocking movement and white noise but they didn't seem to make any difference.

Maybe the bath would help?..silly question but they don't have a temperature/other reason to be crying?

PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 05/07/2019 21:09

Just done that @nespressowoo and after another cheeky 30ml her eyes have closed for the first time properly since 5pm.

Yeah, my brains so fried it’s been 4 hours she’s been awake, not the 2 in my OP.

Now we try and put her down in the cot: this is the danger zone.

[unsticks baby from flab].

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nespressowoo · 05/07/2019 21:16

Wait half an hour before unsticking her, she should be in a deep enough sleep then - I remember the days with my DS. You have my sympathy - I did enjoy the cuddles once the screaming stopped 😅

user1493413286 · 05/07/2019 21:17

Tiger hold? It used to help my DD with wind and to settle to sleep

PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 05/07/2019 21:37

Needless to say she’s in the cot and alternating between shutting down (like, mini tiny sleeps) then going fucking tonto. I’ve never known her cry thus long.

No temperature

White noise of a sort; we have the humidifier on and it’s “hummy” and i know she likes it.

Appreciate the tiger hold suggestion user, unlike DC1 and 2 this one hates it.

Hm. Might need to get the car seat out if I’m still at square 1 at 10.

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DateBanana · 05/07/2019 21:42

Swaddling for our DC. It calmed them every time.

Congratulations and good luck tonight.

mineofuselessinformation · 05/07/2019 21:51

Are you touching her at all?
Try resting a hand gently on her chest.
Very gentle pats if she rouses.
Some babies like the comfort.

PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 05/07/2019 22:27

With a bit of just putting my hand in her for AGES and lifting it off in stealth we have touchdown

Phew thanks guys.

See you again in 4 hours

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mineofuselessinformation · 05/07/2019 22:35

So get yes to bed now. I hope you get a chance for a rest.

mineofuselessinformation · 05/07/2019 22:36


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