Friendship has imploded

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I feel awful. I don’t know how to make myself feel better. I don’t really want to get into the details because it’s long, complicated and quite identifying. But essentially she believes something about me that’s utterly untrue (and hurtful). The more I have tried to sort it out, the worse it’s got. Now things have completely broken down and I just feel awful. A huge weight on my chest and in the pit of my stomach.

I have to leave things be but I feel so sad. So sad for her that she thinks these things and sad for our friendship. If you’ve had this happen, how did you deal with it?

If this is your friend

Surely they would believe what you tell them?

Has someone been shit stirring and they’ve believed them?

No true friend would take someone else’s word unless there is compelling evidence.

I'd write it all out as simply and plainly as possible, send it in an email, and leave it in her court. A true, good friend will believe you. If she doesn't, she's not worth hanging onto

I've had it happen once.

Still feel like I came in on the third act and I'm not really clear on what happened (in my friend's mind) in the second act.

It's taken a good couple of years to even start to feel on an even keel. It was so unexpected and came at a bad time, not that it's the sort of thing that ever has a good time.

You could indeed try writing it all down in a letter or you can step away. I was so worried by my (ex) friend that I decided staying away in every way was the best thing.

MrsMozart that’s exactly how I feel. She’s convinced I did something and no amount of logic, reason or people who were around saying I didn’t doesn’t change her mind.

The more I’ve tried to sort it out, the worse it’s got and everything I’ve said is being twisted. I think stepping away is the only thing I can do but I just feel like utter shit.

All I can tell you is the shit feeling does, eventually, pass.

I considered counselling to try and come to terms with it, but had too many outgoings so couldn't. Now, thanks to good friends and family propping me up, I think it's behind me.

She's clearly a fucking idiot who should be stepped away from smartish anyway. Let it go.