What's the right advice to teenage friendship issues?

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Dd is 13, year 8. She's always been very popular, very needy of her friends, never seemed to have any issues with maintaining friendships.

Recently though there have been a few issues of friends being mean behind her back, not inviting her to parties/outings, not wanting to spend time with her ☹

I don't really know what the right thing to say is? I don't know if she's exaggerating or if really there are problems there. If I were to guess I would say that it's because dd is a bit bossy and also so needy to be liked that she doesn't invest in strong friendships and she'll try to be friends with anyone and will also happily spend time with anyone who wants to. But I don't know if there's a way of putting this across in a constructive and kind way?

Any ideas / experiences would be most welcome!

I've got a bit of that going on. I encourage them to perhaps try and view their actions through their friends eyes, I sympathise with them that their friends actions are making them feel crappy, and I encourage them to focus on other friends and friendship groups. I provide ice cream and chocolate for them, and wine for me.

Lol. Dd went straight for the ice cream without even asking! usually not allowed!

Thanks for the advice ☺