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Some ideas please?

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unknownn · 04/07/2019 14:34

Hello All!!

I am quite lonely at the moment. Most of my friends are away or busy with their partners and families. I have just come out of a long term emotionally abusive relationship and have SO much spare time. Its awful. I only work Tuesday to Friday so Saturday to Monday is empty. And lonely. And I know keeping busy and having fun is so important to recover and get over a break up. So I wondered if anyone had any advice or any ideas of something to do with my spare time? Places that are nice to go to on your own with your own company? Anything to make them few days goes faster whilst I recover.

Thank you!

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pippistrelle · 04/07/2019 14:51

Depends what sort of things you enjoy, and whether money is no object.

On my own, I enjoy historic buildings and museums: they're better when you're by yourself as you can go at your own pace. No hanging around waiting while someone looks at something you're not that interested in. (Or vice versa.)

Shopping is also better by yourself.

And swimming.

I like going to the cinema by myself too in the afternoons, when I can. It feels really decadent and you don't have to compromise on what you're going to see. Or be judged on how much pic and mix you consume...

I also love a train journey by myself, even better with a hotel stay at the end of it, but a day trip is nice too.

AtleastitsnotMonday · 04/07/2019 14:59

Can you say whereabouts in the country you are?
Have you considered volunteering? Can be a great way to meet people and gives you a bit a feel good factor.
Is there an exercise class you would be interested in? Yoga, body combat etc

Soola · 04/07/2019 15:10

The Ramblers or other walking group.

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unknownn · 04/07/2019 15:13

Hi thank you. I have considered it, just worried about commitment to things. I live in East London x

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unknownn · 04/07/2019 15:14

@AtleastitsnotMonday ^^

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PepsiLola · 04/07/2019 15:15

I joined a local women's touch rugby group when I was lonely and wanted to meet new friends. It worked a treat. The players age range was from teens to pensioners.

If you're fit there are also lots of running clubs locally, I am not fit so that wasn't my best option.

Our local book shop has a book club that meets once a week.

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unknownn · 04/07/2019 15:15

@pippistrelle thanks for the ideas. may consider the swimming idea actually. burns calories too!

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Seeline · 04/07/2019 15:28

Join a choir!
Great way to meet people and singing is really good for you. Community choirs are usually open to all, with no auditions etc if you haven't sung before.

ChickyDuck · 04/07/2019 15:39

Do you run, jog or even walk? If so you could give parkrun a try https://www.parkrun.org.uk

It's a weekly 5k at 9am every Saturday, and is incredibly friendly, inclusive and community oriented. Have a look for your nearest one on the website.

You can either run or walk the course (takes about
20-60mins depending on your speed!) or volunteer to help set up and marshal. There is then normally a dedicated cafe where lots of people go for coffee and breakfast after to chat and help sort out the results.

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