DD being filmed

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DS walls gone from school on days In in with another couple of boys. They often then hang around outside our house (without DS who's inside) playing songs loudly on their phones, chucking water on each other etc. They are 10, end of year 5. I have asked them more than once, today they opened the window and died lshoyted into the room I was in from outside, knowing I was there.

They then continued on their way home but bumped into DD who is year 7, they know who she is. They then started shouting out to her, and held their phones up telling her they were filming her. She came home and told me this quite flustered

I then messaged but mum's who I know as acquaintances, don't DD was upset at being filmed and could they please delete any video and explain it is not Ok to film without consent.

I've came back immediately apologising and strong they would talk with their DS. The second sent me a really weird reply saying her son is a well-brought up boy and not much else.

I am now feeling like I overreacted but I often doubt myself, what would you have done?

and then shouted

I would have also made the mum aware.
Am I reading right? They opened your window, the window to your house and shouted inside? Even though they were not invited, your DS wasnt with them/playing with them and they had no business being there?

They sound like theyre getting a bit rowdy and need to be reminded to be respectful and not little shits.

No you were right to send those parents a message OP. They shouldn’t be filming anyone without their consent. I’m also shocked they climbed though your living room window!! Tbh I would be involving the school about both incidents.

Yes they did, I was stood inside and they were shoyting they were ginger to come in and take our Xbox and eat all our food. He is on odd child, one that kind of plays alongside rather than joins in, and always takes things way too far. But even for him the filming I think is too far again

I am so sorry about the typos

Oh they didn’t climb in but shouted in?? Even so, I would still involve the school. Sounds like two kids who will get up to mischief over the summer.

Another vote for potentially involving the school btw. Just say that x and y pupils were entering your property/ in your front garden (I suppose?) uninvited and then filmed and disturbed/intimidated (I almost typed harassed) your DD who is 7 as she walked down the street alone.

In a public place you can film anyone without consent.

In a public place you can film anyone without consent.

You can. That doesn’t mean you should and decency dictates that if that person objects then you stop.

Thanks. I wasn't going to going to involve school but then DS10 phone was going nuts whilst he was out last night and he'd been added to a class WhatsApp group. On it people were asking for the worst things they could say about another pupil (who thankfully wasn't on chat) and then they started insulting their class teacher and add the boys were part of this too I emailed the school the whole thing including screenshots plus am account of what's been happening.

DS is the youngest of the DCs s and thankfully hasn't been involved but my God these 10 year olds are brutal

Please can you say what this means DS walls gone from school on days In in with another couple of boys. because my tired brain can't make it out, sorry.

Well done OP. They sound like bullies tbh. It needs stamped out.

I took it to mean “DS walks home from school some days with another couple of boys”

EnidButton sorry it should say my DS walks home on days I'm in (the house as I wfh some days)

I have the world's worst autocorrect

I think the op means he walks home from school with a couple of boys.
Thankfully, her last two posts are easier to decipher.

Ah thank you very much! Sorry I can usually decipher typos as I'm terrible for them.

I think a group of boys hanging around creating a disturbance every night is worth having a word with their parents even without the added filming. Also filming someone, especially a girl on her own, is something they need to learn is unacceptable as it could escalate as they get older if they think it's a funny or cool thing to do. Unfortunately filming others for a laugh seems to be very common. Doesn't mean it's right though.

So I think you did the right thing.

Am I correct that a group of 10 year olds have a class Whatsap group?

They sound far too young to have phones if they can''t use them sensibly.

They don't have an official one but many of them have phones so they set groups up. Thankfully DS is interested in football and Fortnite only so doesn't get involved, but has a phone as we are starting him walking home on his own more and leaving him for a short while as for year 7 he'll have to do an hour's journey on public transport to get to school and be home alone before me so getting him used to it now.

Tempted to swap him to the old Nokia brick but not only is that not fair as he's done nothing wrong but WhatsApp is useful for me to see if he's read my messages and ignoring me or not!!