Why is it ok to always question my choices when I don’t question theirs?

[MyLovelyLadyFlumps]

Friends/family/colleagues comment on

• what I eat and as a result weigh (i’m Not underweight/overweight)
• how much I drink
• why I don’t wear an engagement ring
• why I haven’t changed my name when I got married

I don’t do this to other people. I don’t say eg “actually I think it’s embarrassing to put “wifey to X” on your social media”. People want/do different things and i try and just get on with what I want to do and let people do the same. But it’s never reciprocated!

I don't know - but I think 'Why do you question my life choices when I don't question yours?' is a good response when they say these comments.

Thanks Teacake I think that will become my standard thing to cut them off!

“Why are you so interested?”

“What’s it got to do with you?”

“And?”

“So?”

I’m completely intolerant of anyone who appears to have an ulterior motive and is questioning me with a view to putting me down.

‘Thank you for your opinion’ and if you’re feeling brave add ‘unsolicited though it was’. It’s my standard response to Helpful Parenting Advice

Agree with PP but if they're really pissing you off say
'your opinion does not matter to me'

unsolicited though it was

Love this Idris!