Hi all,
I have started a new account for this as I wasn't sure hw to NC and am sooo embarrassed but can't ask anyone in RL!
For the record I know I am being absolutely ridiculous and this is (hopefully) quite lighthearted, but I would still like to get some reassurance that I'm not going mad! So I had this random (and extremely horny) dream the other night about a random old school friend of DH's. 
For context I've met him a few times over the years but they don't see much of each other at all, as the friend (let's call him Joe) lives abroad. Joe's nice enough, and very funny, but not my type whatsoever and I've never so much as looked at him that way. I don't mean his unkindly at all, as he's very nice, but he is rather overweight and not "conventionally" 'hot', or what I find attractive. Again, not meant unkindly but just to explain how totally random and out of the blue this dream was!!
Anyway, in the dream I wasn't married to my DH or anything, and was just another version of me in another life I guess. I saw Joe at a swanky party and we were flirting and there was obviously going to be sex...until my alarm clock woke me up!! It was one of those dreams you just want to get back into though! 
Since the dream I've been having weird day dream fantasies about dream Joe, e.g. on the bus yesterday! It's utterly silly and I know it!
To be clear, this is NOT serious and I actually think the "Joe" in the dream was a sort of fantasy version of him, and that if I saw real Joe IRL I would be immediately turned off! I know I need to just snap out of it of course. BUT I'm just trying to work out why I am having this dream / fantasy and if it is there for a reason or just to be ignored. I have never had any sort of dreams / daydreams about other men since I've been with DH. Has anyone else had a dream about a previously 'never thought of that way random person'? Do they mean anything?
Don't worry, I am not going to run off with Joe. I am very happy with DH and we are in a really good place. DH is extremely loving, affectionate and definitely still fancies me, and we have regular sex so I don't think it's about that - and so I am really confused! But one thing I did think about was that in the dream 'Joe' kept saying how attractive I was looking (haha) and I remember feeling really attractive and good about myself in the dream. I did wonder if it could be to do with my self-image as I have just turned 40 and also put on a bit of weight this month and generally felt a bit rubbish about my 'sex-appeal'.
Any dream / fantasy analysts out there who can help?