Finding love when you have a disability

[Stacey1992]

I had my left arm (just above the elbow) amputated four years ago, when I was 23. It’s taken me a tremendous amount of time to rebuild my life and I feel that I might be ready to start dating again. For the past few months I’ve tried a few dating apps but I’ve had no luck (I’ve used photos of myself where it’s obvious that I’ve got no arm). I did get close to a date with someone I met through a sailing group I’m a part of but he said he’d feel uncomfortable because of my arm. Apart from this I’ve had nothing in the past four years. I was just wondering if anyone else has had any experience of dating with a physical disability and maybe even some success stories where it’s turned into a long term relationship. Thank you

My cousin met his DW after his MS diagnosis, and they had nearly 20 years together. She knew right from the start what she was getting into, but she married him anyway. Love isn't blind, but it is accepting.

Good luck.

You will find someone.. I honestly think that someone who won't date you because of your arm wouldn't be worthwhile anyway.

My DH is disabled. We have been together 20 years.

I have some major spinal issues, and a kidney transplant. Fiancé has CP. We're both very happy.

Best of luck

Heather Mills is inspirational and she has a forum for amputees for support and friendships and excellent advice on prosthetics.

www.heathermills.org/amputee-resources

@Soola thank you I didn’t know about this- I’ll definitely have a look!

@AnchorDownDeepBreath thank you for your reply! I’m so glad to hear you’re happy- it makes me really hopeful that one day I can be too!

I've been with my husband for 13 years, we had been dating for 6 months when he got diagnosed with a chronic condition that seriously has affected our lives. I think that finding someone to have an actual relationship with seems to be really hard but I think that you just have to keep looking and that it won't matter about your arm when you find the one!

@DisgraceToTheYChromosome thank you for your reply! I know someone with MS and I can only imagine how difficult life must be for them- it’s really lovely to hear that your cousin has been married for 20 years despite it! I think with some people when they learn to cope with their disability on a day to day basis it can bring them closer to those they love

@Stacy1992: sadly, we lost him 4 years ago. They were a remarkable couple, and didn't let the disease get in the way of being human.

Hello op, my husband is disabled, missing several bones in hips and legs (congenital birth defect) problems with his spine and missing a lung. We met 5 years ago married 3 years.
He didn't put it directly on his profile and explained t all in person on our first date, not hiding it per se but giving me time to get to know his personality first. It was a lot to get my head around but I had at least a basis of a spark first which helped

@DisgraceToTheYChromosome I’m so sorry to hear that- that’s an amazing way to put it too- that he didn’t let his disease get in the way of being human. I hope you and your family are well

@jellybean85 thank you for your reply! I think you’re right- if you have a spark already it’s better for getting to know someone despite their disability.