Single ladies, are you weary of the 'ooh, have you met anyone nice recently?' comments?

[Nonstopbuttmachine]

So sick of this! I'm perfectly happy by myself, I have my own house, job, car and three cats. I'm not lonely; I have wonderful friends, a great social life, freedom and independence. Yes, it would be nice to meet a 'perfect' man but why should I put myself out there just to 'meet' someone?

It's always coupled up people that want me to meet someone. The irony is, most of the couples complain bitterly about their partners!

Yes . I’m a single parent happy by myself . Annoys me when they say things like ‘ we need up find you a man ‘. No you don’t , I don’t need a man to complete me .

Ridiculous isn't it. I've had friends trying to get me to join dating sites.

Ffs, I attract enough weirdos just walking down the street, why would I want to do it online 🙄

I succumbed to the peer pressure but joining a dating site. Waste of money as I’m just not bothered enough.
Plus most men are tits!
I don’t have the time not the patience to deal with male egos.
I like doing what I want when I want to.

Yup!

Followed by three verses of “never say never” when you say you’re not interested. And a bridge of “you’ll change your mind when you meet the right man”

Sick and tired of it. I desperately want to meet someone, but OLD has been nothing short of self-flagellation and I'm really not up for discussing it with someone who just wants to know when 'I'm giving them a day out'.

A good friend’s husband always asks me about my love life (I’m a widow) and then practically lectures me that my life just isn’t complete without a man. I’m perfectly happy without one. I’ve got two kids, friends, dogs, my own home and my business. Like you if a man was to come along great, but I’m not going out of my way to find one.

Pip that's bad, why do people do that?

I'm not single now but was for YEARS. I used to absolutely loathe it when people said 'you'll find someone when you least expect it!' as if I walked around in a state of expectation that I would meet someone and all I had to do was drop my guard for a moment and Mr Perfect would come gliding by. It was usually said with a patronising pitying head tilt too - ooh I can still feel my hands clenching into fists thinking about it and I've been married 8 years!

Yes the patronising head tilt.

It's EVERY time though, every single time. Have you met someone? FUCK OFF!!

Lots of similar comments on threads on here

just try OLD - as if that's the answer and as if the poster hasn't already thought about it

And join some clubs.

But yes, it is a bit irritating when so many people imply that you need to meet someone to be valued and complete

I try to shame them by saying 'yes, I meet nice people every day.'

Then, when they start doing the 'any nice MEN, though...?' I tell them that 50% of the nice people I meet every day are men.

It forces them to lay out what they are actually saying, 'have you met anyone you might like to date?'

And then I just give them a withering look, roll my eyes slightly and change the subject. Hopefully they then feel a bit sill.

Zaphodsotherhead I like your method, might give it a go.

Oh god yes there’s one person I actively ignore because they keep saying this to me. And don’t believe me when nothing changes in a week or my weekend isn’t spent dating people. They also say things like “you’ll be next” when someone in our social group has a baby. Unless it’s very unplanned I really doubt that. Bearing in mind there’s people in the group engaged or in ltr who are probably more likely to have kids before me. But they don’t receive the same comments

yes, it's batshit.

I love being single so much, I don't want to change it!

I did find that hitting 40 and still being happy made quite a few people shut up though.

My h hasn't moved out yet and already friends are trying to set me up! I do understand they don't want me to be lonely or moping but until h moves out I'm not ready