Mummy’s boy/daddy’s girl - any truth in it?

[Mardybummode]

Please bear with me I’m rambling

DD is 4 months old and since she was born (as soon as we had our first visitor) she was referred to as a daddy’s girl.

I don’t know if that’s just stuff people say or if there’s actually any truth in it.

I do have PND and I wonder if me and DD would have been closer had she been a boy. When people used to say it is just think to myself, “fine I’ll just fuck off then”

But thinking about it, I do prefer my dad to my mum although I’m not close to either. I think that’s just because my mum isn’t a nice person though.

Thoughts? Is there any truth in it?

@ignatiusjreilly - that’s exactly what I was worried about!

I also have a bad relationship with my mum and was worried DD will dislike me like I dislike my mum, or that she’ll talk to me the way DH speaks to me

Load of rubbish, ignore people they say really stupid stuff x

Everyone I'd different but in our home my DS is a 'Mummys boy' and DD is more 'for' her DD.
I, however wasn't a Daddy's girl.
DP is definitely a Mummy's boy

It's just tosh that people say. DD and I have always had a brilliant relationship. She loves her dad too. Don't let off the cuff remarks by thoughtless people make you think these things are predetermined. They're not.

It’s rubbish. Dd was a mummy’s girl to the point where it was hard for me to leave her with him, then a daddy’s girl. Now as a teen she finds her dad annoying and is a mummy’s girl again. There’s no reason for it though. We both love her!

It's rubbish. Only one of my 4 girls is a daddy's girl, the other 3 always want me. Lucky me.🙄

I am much closer to my mum than my dad although I love them both. I dont think it matters if boy or girl.

Try and drop the phrase "a daughter is a daughter for life a son is a son till he finds a wife" (dont believe that either and very petty)

I find my dd and ds both want me if they are upset and need comfort and dad for carry on. Both important and neither better than the other.

PrtScn
I was a daddy's girl but my sister is closer to my mum. My son is currently a mummy's boy but currently because I have the boobs. I expect when he's older he's going to be closer with his dad, it's all about personalities and interests I think.

I definitely agree that it has more to do with personality type. My DM and DSiS were so alike - they never stopped moving or being active whereas my DF and I were happy to sit and watch the world go by. Now in our 70s my DSis and I are still polar opposites and find each other's lives inexplicable and thus contact has been reduced to half an hour at Christmas.

Fwiw, I would say my DD(6) has always been a mummy's girl (and DH would agree). She also has an amazing relationship with DH: she loves both of us with all her heart, and also adores her whole extended family.

Children naturally have open, loving hearts. If you love them and try to show it (pay loving attention to them, play with them, be kind etc) then they will love you too. Note that studies show that what matters most is playing with them and being interested in them, rather than the 'care' tasks like feeding and nappies etc.

or that she’ll talk to me the way DH speaks to me
This is a concern though. Does your DH speak to unkindly? That's not OK.

It's a load of rubbish OP.

My own experience re: my DS is that children have a stronger bond with one parent or another at various points in time.

As a baby I was the "favourite" (but then I was food ) but as a toddler he couldn't spend enough time with DH.

Primary school and again I was the go-to parent but now he's a teen I'd say it's pretty equal. He generally "calls" on us depending on our various skills (knowing which parent is better placed to help).

So I'm all honesty don't worry about it. There are no rules here other than to love your child and be the best parent you can.

I'm the same - I went through periods of being closer to my DF and my DM. Now I can honestly say I'm equally close to him hen both.

You'll make mistakes and get frustrated at times but it's not a competition between you and your DH. Your DD will flourish because she's loved by both parents - her sex and yours are not a deciding factor in your relationship xxx

Utter codswallop.

I have 2 boys and 2 girls. At various points they have all favoured dh over me and vice versa. Now dd1 is 11, she enjoys having girly time just me and her. The youngest, twin son, will often snuggle up to dh on the sofa. Ds1 is probably the most 'mummy's bly' out of all of them. But dd2 will also wail and tantrum that she misses me and doesn't want to be without me.

Imo give no heed to what other people say. It is very hard when you have pnd to think logically that these people are just coming out with tired old phrases because they can't think of anything original to say. But it's the truth. Mummy's boy, daddy's girl. Girls are Sugar and spice and all things nice while boys are slugs and snails and puppy dog tails... children have their own unique personalities and their preference for one parent over the other is based on nothing more than the moment that they are in.

Gives be the rage ds is classed as a mummy's boy by some people in passing who see affection by boys as weakness I think. I reply that of course he's my boy. He hasn't got a dad so can hardly be his can he?! That shuts them up.

OP. I had pnd after dd1 and had a work colleague of exH say how dd looked nothing like me and all like her dad as though I was some kind of imposter. She's 12 now and I've never forgotten how hurt I was at that comment. Ignore them as best you can.

My. Dd is currently a mummy's girl
But had gone through phases of not wanting me at all.. Even when dp Can't have her eg when he's dirty from work.
Atm it's the other way around.
Children are funny little creatures.