Statutory declaration of acknowledgement of parentage form15

[sharpie1]

Hi all,

So my partner had an affair with another woman. They slept together on two occasions and she insisted she wasn't ovulating at the time so couldn't get pregnant. She lied.

Its clear now from remarks made subsequently to him that the pregnancy was planned all along by her

She waited until she was past the 3 months to tell him. They split immediately and he wants nothing to do with her or the child.

A CSA claim has arrived on the doorstep asking for 350 pounds a month. He has three other kids to support and is in a mountain of debt and about to go bankrupt. There is no way we can pay this money without defaulting on other loans.

He has never signed paternity or had any contact with her since the birth. I suspect she has put his name on the birth certificate so it's easier for her to claim child maintenance

Is it legal for her to do this without him having signed statutory declaration acknowledging paternity? Is she allowed to sign this without his consent?

Many thanks,

I believe CSA/CMA call it 'presumed parentage' so yes you can name anyone and they will take your word for it and don't ask for a BC.

It is up to the 'father' to context parentage

So he only slept with her twice but didn't end the affair until she was 3months pregnant. An unlikely story.

Amazing how many women are out there trying to trick men into fatherhood. Stop minimising what he has done. The birth certificate is a red herring.

I'm assuming he has no intention of parenting the child he has created.

He won’t be on the birth certificate unless he went with her.

If he disputes paternity he needs to do so though CMS, you don’t need a solicitor.

Other expenses don’t come into the calculation. Only an amount for any other children. It’s a priority debt/expense.

Aghh I appreciate I put it out there so people will have strong opinions but come on guys! The post isn't really to discuss how much of a dick he is, how weak I am or how wronged she is (he has been, I'm not and she is a manipulative cow who when she couldn't get her own way, sent him to the brink of suicide). How's that for sharing??

Obv there's more ins and outs to a situation than a paragraph can give. She lives the other end of the country and went awol until surprise im 3 months!

I thank you all for your input. He will be calling CMS tomorrow and see where we go from there.

OP. This is a tricky situation for but CMS wont discuss anything with you unless he gives written permission. One question I wanted to ask. You say he's been assessed at 350 a month. Either he helped in the assessment or he has had previous letters from CMS asking for his financial details and ignored them. They only assess on two reasons. He assisted or he ignored. Now 350 is alot for a month on a superseded assessment unless it's arrears too. I would put money on this that he knew she was pregnant. Assisted with the pregnancy and may have even gone with her to register the birth. Then perhaps it all went wrong and she contacted CMS. She must have know his financial situation to have told them how much he earns etc. Unless like I said. He assisted.

Seeleyboo makes good points.

I think there are a number of indicators in this whole sorry tale which show more clearly than OP intended that he has been lying more extensively than he chooses to admit.

I hope the calls he made today help to sort it all out.

Bottom line is that child maintenance is a priority issue, and even though he is seeking an adjustment, he (and you) really will need to make changes to other spending.

So I was there when they called him today. This is the first letter they've sent.

He works in the public sector so she knew his employers and a simple internet search would confirm his wages. They said they got his financial details from HMRC and assessed it at 350 and wanted him to confirm his latest tax assessment.

They also confirmed she hasn't ticked the birth certificate box so will go back to her on this and will update tomorrow.

I was there when the call came and so heard it was the first letter and how they came to assessment.

Imo it is disgusting how someone can name whoever they like as the df then get cash payments so soon!! No questions!
I hope its all sorted soon op.

They wouldn't make an assessment based on her say so without sending any other notification. OP you can ask for all the data that have. It will show you every communication that there has been to the NRP ( non resident parent) he has either ignored letters and calls or if you can prove they've sent letters to a wrong address the assessment period can be changed. CMS do not just contact his employer and bang there you go. This process takes months and warning letters are issued before anything is assessed. I think although you have stated you feel this post isn't about what he has done etc but sorting the situation. He is still being indiscreet with you. Believe me. I've heard every excuse in the book while working at the CSA.