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Shocked, disgusted. Former colleague/friend is a sex offender

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FFS2019 · 30/06/2019 22:00

I noticed a Facebook friend had disappeared the other day but found out today she has been found guilty of sending explicit sexual messages to a 14 year old girl. Oh and warned by the judge no more licking...
Am shocked. She was a good friend when we worked together, same age as me, we had so much in common and had a good laugh. We lost contact apart from Facebook as our lives took different paths and she moved but fucking hell I'm just shocked and feel disgusted she has done this. I'm glad we list touch but feel awful she was someone I liked. I don't really know what to think.
Sorry just need to vent.

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Houseworkavoider · 30/06/2019 22:39

I felt the same!
I wasn’t friends with her but my Dh did some building work for them.
He said she seemed quite strange!

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FFS2019 · 30/06/2019 22:50

I hadn't seen her for at least 10 years. I never thought she was strange which is what makes this all the more shocking.

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wizzywig · 30/06/2019 22:52

No more licking?!

CapitalistLackey · 30/06/2019 22:53

You both knew this person?

AnthonyCrowley · 30/06/2019 22:55

I read about this case in the DM last week.

IvanaPee · 30/06/2019 22:56

No more licking??

BurnedToast · 30/06/2019 22:56

A quick Google would suggest the Judge did indeed tell her to stop licking people. Shock

NamelessGem · 30/06/2019 22:57

Welcome to the real world - paedophiles and sex offenders walk among us, they lead ‘normal’ lives and have typical relationships.

Of course it is shocking to know someone you liked is a sex offender. But they aren’t all strange, eccentric weirdos ....

Houseworkavoider · 30/06/2019 22:58

I know who she is. My Dh knows her to chat to.
In this bit of Cornwall everyone knows everyone.

AnyFucker · 30/06/2019 23:00

Confused do you all know each other ?

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FFS2019 · 30/06/2019 23:02

I know sex offenders could be any person who appears perfectly normal but you just don't imagine someone you were friends with could be one.

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FFS2019 · 30/06/2019 23:03

She didn't live in Cornwall when I knew her.

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TheJellyBabyMadeMeDoIt · 30/06/2019 23:05

YANBU. I have learned the hard way that there probably are paedophiles around every corner.

I've had a very close, male, family friend be sent down for historical child sexual assault. He had a "relationship" with a 15yo girl he met at work (similar to a milkman, but not!)

Then a very good friend's dad was caught by paedophile hunters in a sting. He was waiting for a supposed 14 yo girl, he had explicitly discussed the meeting to be sexual. He was 70. He'd been in contact with my teen daughter (though never unsupervised)and it knocks me sick to think he could have had such thoughts about her.

Someone I used to work with was done for indecent images of children. In a million years I would never have guessed he was that way inclined.

A distant family member has also been sent down for a long time for abusing young children.

I used to hope it was media hype, but if boring old me has so many connections to depraved perverts I can't see it being anything but rife.

gamerchick · 30/06/2019 23:09

Statistically we all know a nonce of some sort. Most of the time it's a complete shock I think.

I found out a few months ago a guy I was close too at college was doing lengthy jail time for rape of a teenage girl. It felt like a punch in the guts. That poor girl. I would never have thought he had it in him.

EleanorOalike · 30/06/2019 23:09

There’s a man in my hometown who is adored by everyone and who is a complete and utter sleaze who married a girl with severe mental
health problems (schizophrenia) on her 16th birthday when he was 50. They were “together” when she was 13. He’s had 10 children removed from his care due to horrific neglect, physical and emotional abuse and threat of violence towards them and their mother. He’s now on the boards of charities, loads of choirs etc. He makes me sick to my stomach. Everyone who meets him talks about how charismatic he is. They refuse to believe the things he’s done. It makes me wonder just how many of them are out there.

IvanaPee · 30/06/2019 23:09

Wtf? You all know her??

Frownette · 30/06/2019 23:17

It was a pretty widespread news story.

Coop14 · 30/06/2019 23:43

I worked with someone who turned out to have groomed and rapped teenage boys when he was a teacher. I really liked the person I was sickened and very upset when I found out because he had prior too. Felt like everything was a lie

Houseworkavoider · 30/06/2019 23:57

I don’t think we know each other.

GibbonLover · 01/07/2019 00:09

www.cornwalllive.com/news/cornwall-news/woman-45-found-guilty-sexting-3022691

Alternative link for those who boycott the S*n.

GabsAlot · 01/07/2019 11:49

The op said it wasnt cornwall

stucknoue · 01/07/2019 11:52

It's happened to us, and a far more horrific case. The thing is that looking back he was really odd, he was never really a friend but to think you knew someone who could do such things is a weird feeling

doxxed · 01/07/2019 12:00

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FFS2019 · 01/07/2019 12:49

That is the case. She lived elsewhere when I knew her.
It is a horrible feeling knowing someone you were friends with took advantage of a vulnerable person.

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