I’ve recently moved into a new flat. Nearly three weeks ago one of my new neighbours invited me round for coffee “next week”. I said that would be really nice. She did not at that point specify a day and time, so I assumed she’d text me nearer the time. She didn’t. I’m now wondering - did she end up being too busy, or forget? Or did she expect me to pop round at my own initiative, and is now thinking me rude/antisocial for not doing so? She is genuinely very friendly and I really think the invitation was sincere - not the kind of thing that’s said but not meant. (A couple of times before, when I was popping into my flat to organize renovation work before moving in, she mentioned that we should meet for a cuppa.) I don’t think I should call round without prearrangement, especially as she’s a hairdresser who works from home, so might have a client there. An ideal way to clear up the situation would obviously be that we happened to see each other outside our flats, but so far this hasn’t happened, and it may not do anytime soon. What would you do - just leave it for now?
An additional factor is that I really need some hairdressing, and was planning on going to her - convenient for me, and I expect she’d be pleased to have a new client. Perhaps I could text and mention both the coffee and the haircut?! I don’t want to seem pushy about the coffee but also don’t want to seem as if I’m ignoring the invitation!