DH came home at 4.45am

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...from work. This never, ever happens. The latest he's normally out (on a night out) is 1/2am. I knew he'd be working late and might go for a drink after. He text at 9 saying he was waiting for a train home, thought no more of it and went to sleep around 10. Woke up when he came in at 4.45 but he was so drunk I knew I wouldn't get any sense out of him so just said I'll talk to him 'in the morning' (which is about 1 hour later for me). I'm just a bit freaked out and don't know whether to be suspicious - where the hell was he? I can't imagine him going to a club and I don't think any of his colleagues are the type to stay out that late, they all have families too.

If he was that drunk I'd think club or somewhere else drinking.

Not sure how lean the dating market is these days but I'm pretty sure women don't take home incoherent drunkards!!

I have no idea about your DH but from my own experience it is perfectly plausible to stay out late on a night. I go out infrequently but when we do we have been known to "make the best of it". It is generally because we've had a lock in in a pub somewhere. Nothing sinister just a good laugh.

Probably went back to someone from works house for drinks. Maybe a single guy has joined the company?

Turn off MN until you’ve spoken to him. It will just be useless speculation until you have heard what he has to say!

If it was an old mate from the days when we would have big nights out I wouldn't be so shocked. Maybe he met one of them after work. I just can't imagine after work drinks escalated that much. Plus they had their monthly do the night before!

Not sure how lean the dating market is these days but I'm pretty sure women don't take home incoherent drunkards!!

Very true!

Turn off MN until you’ve spoken to him. It will just be useless speculation until you have heard what he has to say!

THIS. It could be work stress, bad news, MLC, affair,... anything.

MLC?

Mid life crisis

'Out, in bars, with people from work'. Sorry it's not very exciting. He stinks of booze and has gone back to bed so I'm just going to leave him there and enjoy the sunshine with the kids.

Last time I rolled in that late (good couple of years ago!), I was able to get a lift home but my friend dropped 3 other people off first, some miles away from home. Taxi would have been quicker but her driving (she was sober!) felt safer.

I think if it’s a one-off, I’d just say you don’t want it to become a habit and let it go.

Yeah I won't make a big thing of it, it doesn't happen often. Just wish he wouldn't take it to such extremes, he was so so drunk. He's been the same on the other rare occasions to, vomited all over the wall and down the side of the bed once. I would hate to be in that state!!