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Help me get over regret for not offering on house...

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HellInAHandCartThatsWhat · 29/06/2019 06:56

Right area, we could afford it, house we both agreed on. Minor concern about garden and kitchen.

Caught a bit on hop by being asked of wanted to make offer as there was other interest. Said no....without properly thinking as felt a bit pressured.

Now thinking nothing else is going to come up soon. Stuck in this house. Aargh.

We’re moving for a garden and a drive and to get out of a Terrace. Very little like that round here,!

Stuck in huge regret every time I see it pop up or walk past it...

I need a kick up the arse.

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ellesbellesxxx · 29/06/2019 07:00

So has it sold?

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Redglitter · 29/06/2019 07:03

A better house is waiting. I had the same feelings about one I missed out on. I loved it, ticked all the boxes. Took another 18 months but then I found my house. Ticked almost no boxes but as soon as I saw it I knew i had to have it. Now several years later I still cant believe how lucky I was getting this. As for the original house - it's a distant memory

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JoJoSM2 · 29/06/2019 07:09

Well, if you're moving for a garden and you had concerns over it, then it doesn't sound like it was a good one for you.

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HellInAHandCartThatsWhat · 29/06/2019 07:12

It’s sold stc. We’ve sold ours to someone who is willing to wait but probably not 18 months,...

So our kitchen needs replaced but as we’ve got a buyer we aren’t going to do it ...so there’s that lovely house with kitchen and utility and garden.... why was I so daft.

Looked at more houses now and realising that what we want is hard to get...or comes up 9nce in a blue moon. Kicking myself.

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yearinyearout · 29/06/2019 07:30

It's worth letting the agent know just in case it falls through for any reason.

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Andromeida59 · 29/06/2019 08:52

We thought the same thing. Put an offer in on a house for, in hindsight, over our budget. Was devastated when the EA found other buyers. Ended up finding our new home less than two years later. New home was in a better condition, had more of our preferences and was also 12k cheaper despite offering 40k over asking.
Don't worry OP, you're new home is out there.

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MissB83 · 29/06/2019 09:08

I missed on one I thought would be perfect and was devastated, but found a better one a few months later and had literally forgotten about the first one altogether... you'll get there, you only need one new house!

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Dickybow321 · 01/07/2019 12:29

In house buying you snooze, you lose. If you like a house you need to act. I'm guessing you're FTB? At least you will know for next time, which hopefully will be a better house.

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thoughtsandthoughts · 01/07/2019 12:34

How long has it been?

Do you have a deadline you need to move by?

It does pass, eventually.

I was devastated to have lost a house because I wanted a second viewing but was denied it as someone had made an offer. Since then I have seen enough houses to know that it was a good idea to not be pressured by estate agents. Our current house had an illegal extension!

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CapitalistLackey · 01/07/2019 14:06

It's been a month and nothing else has come up. We aren't first time buyers by a long stretch. We'd only just started looking and I hadn't realised that what we want is quite so rare in the area we need to live.

I was standing in our kitchen today kicking myself that I wasn't packing up to move to a nice new kitchen with a utility and light!

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Tabitha005 · 01/07/2019 14:22

I think you're allowed to have a few regrets in life - as long as they don't consume you. And I'm sure, as soon as you find another house you really love and ticks all your boxes (or, at least, most of them) you'll feel a lot better.

My husband and I are in a funny place at the moment of having found a house we think we might like to put an offer on - but the woman who owns it is awful - and she's selling the house without an estate agent, so we'd probably have to deal with her a fair bit ourselves to cut down on unnecessary solicitors costs. You know when you just get that feeling it's going to be a hellish ride until the deal is done and dusted?!

I hope you find the perfect house really soon, OP.

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HellInAHandCartThatsWhat · 01/07/2019 16:24

@Tabitha005 - thank you. That makes me feel better. I'm hoping it will fade into mild regret.

I went to see a house in a private sale....and walked away as I just couldn't face dealing with all that would have gone with it. So you are braver than me.

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MissB83 · 01/07/2019 21:40

Tabitha005 I know where you are coming from. I love my new house but the whole purchasing process was an utter nightmare as the couple I bought from were an absolute pair of shits... I'm still getting their mail now but it goes in the bin! It can be a lot of stress to have to deal with those kinds of people, although estate agents are sometimes not much better...