Good morning. My DM had an operation on her spine 3 days ago. Here in spain it is normal (expected) to have someone with you to provide some basic care even, if like us, you are in private hospital)
Have just spent second night with no sleep, maonly due to DM snoring and making all kinds of sounds. I'm at the end of my, admittedly, short tether.
Making matrees worse is they took her catheter out last night so needs to use a bed pan. Instead of ringing tge bell DM has been waiting til last minute so I've had to it. Three times last night. This was not part of the deal. She's supposed to have assistance cos she's still hasn't got out of bed post op. This is also an issue cos surgeon said she had to get out of bed yesterday but nurses don't seem to want to. Again can't just get out or bed herself cos she's had major surgery.
Another HUGE issue is language barrier. DM is quite capable in Spanish but is struggling because of the pain Meds to understand. My Spanish is tiny (I don't live here but she only has me and my brother and he's a useless shit whose sole contribution has been one text). She has an interpretor for medical stuff but doesn't want to 'bother him" on a Saturday. She pays him a monthly retainer for his services and he's wonderful.
I'm going bat shit crazy as I type this cos she's snoring like a banshee and when she wakes she will go on a bit more about how she hasn't slept for days!!!
Finally there's tge feeding. I should preface this by explaining I do get majorly, hugely, incredibly wound up by certain sounds and eating (particularly DM and my DH). Cos she is still having to lie practically flat I am having to feed her. That alone is too much to bear.
Not sure what I want from writing this rearly. Just wanted to put it all down, maybe to use in mitigation in my murder trial!!!
To top it all wifi is bloody awful here.
Can it get any worse? Probably cos she hates the coffee and they'll be bringing her a cup soon 