I really need advice my heart is breaking. please help this may be long thanks for reading..
After splitting up with my sons father over 6 years ago..my ex has poisoned my sons head telling my son he can't wait till I die and he hates meet etc..my ex use to stalk me.smashed two of my cars up.he put all my clothes in black bags and filled them with dirty water.. all because I told him I didn't love him..I had restraining orders against him. myself and my Dc had to have code word if he approached us incase they were scared and then I had to phone police who would take us to a safe place.he's 18 years older than I am..he has two other children who he does not see.(as he beat his daughters mum and step dad up in front of her)
I've never slandered my ex off to our son as I belived he would find out what his dad was like as he grew older.. but this has all backed fired now and I'm in bits.. my son thinks his dad is a God..
His attitude is heartbreaking he talks to me like utter crap and he's turning into his dad.. he said he hates me and he wants to be with his dad..he's on the verge of being excluded from school for good..if a teacher tells my son off he just tells them he will bring his dad up to sort them out.. he's accused a teacher of spitting in his face and his dad belives him..a teacher was telling him off and he phoned his dad while in a lesson his dad kicked off with the teacher telling them they can't shout at his son.. my sons attitude is no one can tell him off..I do everything for my son and love him dearly but I feel totally excuasted and don't know which way to turn..Social services have been involved cafcass and school all agree is dad is poison but have done nothing to help..his dad hates women and my son has no respect for anything or anyone..his dad's partner has to move out of front seat of car to the back when my son is picked up..
My ex won't have a wrong word said about son...if teachers ring him he says they can't tell him off..he only has him every other weekend..I told him he needs to have him for a few weeks so my son can realise it's not all a bed of roses with his dad..but his dad works 6am -6 pm and says he can't have him..even though he only pays £13 a week for his son..which my son replies why should he give you money..its not about the money..
I lost my mum last year while pregnant with my daughter and I just feel like I can't take anymore..
I came home from work Wednesday with my work colleague and she witnessed my son shouting and screaming at me the second I walked through the door..he said he was leaving to stay with his dad..I said if that's what you want then fine... his dad phomed me swearing saying he couldnt have him..but has got him now and I'm just sat thinking my son will never return..I miss him so much and I feel so ill..we have a lovely home and a beautiful family my husband is an amazing man who is the best support ever..he adores my son but he hates how he treats me..he keeps saying my son will come back but this may be the shock he needs that it's not always play time at dad's...
Thanks for reading... please be gentle..xx